Dear Child.
November 11, 2011

Dear Child,

I’ve gone back and forth about writing a letter to you and this is what I’ve decided: adoption is like pregnancy.  We don’t know you yet, but every moment that we wait for you, that we search for you, that we yearn for you, we love you more.  When we did not yet know your sister Charlotte, we loved her too and we wrote letters to her.

This is the first letter that we are writing to you.  I promise, sweet child, that there are more to come.  One day when you are older, we will send you into the world with these letters and we will say: we loved you at the beginning and we will love you in the end.  We love you always.  No matter what you do, no matter what happens, no matter where you are, no matter who you choose to be: we love you always.

A few days ago your sister came to me out of the blue.  “Momma,” she said, “I want a brother.  Yeah.  Or a sister.  Yeah!  A BROTHER OR A SISTER, MOMMA!”  Of the three of us, there can be no doubt that it is your sister who most eagerly awaits your arrival.

Your father and I want nothing more than to look in your eyes and hold you close and watch you grow.  We know that you will enrich our lives and that our family will be better for your presence.  But your sister, your darling sister, (oh I can’t wait until you meet your sister!) can hardly contain her excitement.  She talks about you every day, tells people that you are coming, brags about the things you will do together, sets aside toys and books to share with you.

We’ve been talking to your sister quite a bit about what it means to be a family.  A family, we tell her, is knit together by love and not by biology.  There are relatives who go all their lives never truly knowing each other.  And there are strangers who come together and build something beautiful.

We hope, oh we hope, that we are able to give you something beautiful.

We love you more than bears love honey (and everybody knows that’s an awful lot),
Momma and Daddy


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  1. By on November 11, 2011

    Dear Sarah,
    This is SO wonderful!
    I’m excited to read what’s going on in the next weeks and months in your wonderful family. I hope that your dream will come true very soon and there will be a little brother or sister for Charlotte, and a new kid that gets all the love that Donald and you have in your hearts…

  2. By on November 11, 2011

    This is so beautiful! Someday you’ll be able to share this with your sweet son or daughter and they will know just how deep your love is. I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time and never commented before now. My husband and I have no children of our own yet, but I know that whether or not we have biological babies, we will adopt someday. I hope that we can show the same love you are able to. :)

  3. By Kirsten on November 11, 2011

    So happy for you. Your hearts are so large and I can’t wait to see what this journey brings.

  4. By Mandy on November 11, 2011

    Wherever in the world your adopted child(ren) are, they are going to be so blessed to become a part of your loving family.  Love is truly what makes a family - and you guys have so much love to share! What a beautiful difference you are making the world.

  5. By beyond on November 11, 2011

    so beautiful!

  6. By Sarah@Crazy Love Gamble-Style on November 11, 2011

    I’m so excited for your family!  You are going to make the best mother to any lucky children that come into your lives, you have so much to offer.  What a blessing.

  7. By Molly on November 11, 2011

    What a beautiful letter. My heart has been hurting for babies who do not have the love of a mama and daddy…I too, would love to adopt someday.
    Thank you for loving these babies too.

  8. By Cindy A on November 11, 2011

    Sarah, you bring tears to my eyes and love to my heart.  Any child will be lucky to be in your family, I know this.  Love is powerful, love is formed before you know your way.  I loved Bailey before she was conceived, I loved this new little one before he/ she was.  You are an amazing Mom, and your family is truly knit with love.

  9. By on November 11, 2011

    Wonderful! Over 30 years ago I was as excited as your Charlotte about the prospect of my parents increasing our family by adoption, and I absolutely doted on the four year old brother who came into my life. Still one of the high points of my life, along with my marriage and the birth of my children.

  10. By on November 12, 2011

    Oh, it’s beautiful. I hope there’s a children somewhere that can already feel all the love you have for him or here.
    Bonne chance, et bienvenue cher enfant

  11. By on November 13, 2011

    that child is so lucky to have you’all waiting for him/her.
    it’s beautiful.

  12. By Megan R. on November 13, 2011

    really beautiful…

  13. By Stephanie on November 13, 2011

    This is so amazingly sweet. Your son/daughter will cherish this letter forever knowing that his/her Momma. Daddy and Sister wanted them before they even knew them. Beautiful.

  14. By Heather on November 15, 2011

    Not much causes me to tear up, but this brought tears to my eyes. So sweet, so loving, so heartfelt. When you find your child, they will be so lucky.


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