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oh no. sounds like post-birthing vaginal trauma. poor you!
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I TOTALLY understand. I had my postpartum appointment 2 weeks ago. (My doc did the post check at 4 weeks.) I was terrified. Just the thought of it was horrifying. But, it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. Your doctor knows you went through a lot, and will be gentle. Thankfully you have a great husband to go with you! Good luck. I hope that it goes well! Besides, now it will be over and behind you :) Thats a big positive to focus on!
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I’m very sorry that you were so upset but really I laughed so hard when I read this.
I hope todays goes better.
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Heidi - It’s totally irrational, and I can’t explain it. The thought of having sex doesn’t terrify me, but the thought of the exam does. As for he pregnancy, though, no I did not have them. I had two exams during the entire pregnancy. During delivery, I kicked the doctor who tried to examine me for admission, which is why they gave me morphine. To calm me down and slow things up so that I wouldn’t deliver before admission was possible.
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My first appointment was an absolute mess. I had mastitis at the time, so I was already disoriented, and then I brought Jazz with me. We had to walk to the bus in the rain, twice, and I was crying by the time we got there because I didn’t know what was wrong with me (didn’t know about the mastitis yet). When they did the exam, I was holding Jasper on my stomach and I just started sobbing. Ugggh. I hate that memory.
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I was ok for my post-partum appointment. And last year’s girly check-up, but this year, for some reason I am dreading this year, ugh! Sorry you were so ill at ease, hope it goes better today!
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You poor girl :( I just went to the doctor and I was terrified! I have the classic white coat syndrome. My blood pressure was through the roof, and I ended up bawling when the doctor brought up my hip problem. She must have thought I was a spaz!! I totally get how you feel, maybe I need valium when I go in. They can never get an accurate blood pressure on me , and my face is always as red as a fricken tomato!! I HATE GOING TO THE DOCTOR!!!!!!!
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Well, that is definitely an entertaining story! I’m sorry that happened to you!
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I vote for valium becomming STANDARD PROCEDURE for the post partum check-up! (And, guess what? I’m quite certain that isn’t the first time a doctor and nurse have been puked on! Don’t worry about it!)
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I don’t have kids yet but I will tell you this: I am not afraid of labor & delivery. I AM terrified for: the 1st time I poo after having a baby. Soooo…I don’t think your fear is irrational or weird. Puking is intense but everyone’s body responds differently to those kinds of situations. Just because you experienced the pain of having baby doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to be afraid or nervous about potentially painful situations. Especially when they concern your nani. :)
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Really? You went through LABOR and you were scared for the post pardum check up? I am sorry!! Does not sound good…
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p.s. Darn it all Stephanie - yet another instance when I could have been helpful. I think a HUG would have been in order there.
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Oh my dear, that’s some serious PTSD. And hormones. I always console myself when I humiliate myself at the doctor’s that I can’t be the first to have done this, right? RIGHT?
You weren’t the first. I guarantee it.
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Yea, thanks for that! Nothin’ like reading that story as I eat breakfast! But, my god, why must they do that exam AGAIN? So soon? What is the purpose? Wouldn’t you KNOW if something was amiss? GOOD LUCK!
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That’s just another one of those reasons why I’m not having a child. I hate going to the doctor and dread it for literally months before I have to go. I just don’t understand why to get birth control pills they need to do that. I mean, I’m with the same person, always have been, and don’t intend to change that. Anyways, I totally understand your fear. Hope it goes well today.
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Oh no! I was pretty much in a panic too. I just thought it was going to hurt so bad because of what went on down there. Luckily it did not. And luckily I did not puke!
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Oh you poor dear! Mine is next week, and I have to admit, I’m rather nervous in regards to it as well…although, to me, sex scares the hell out of me as well!
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Oh no! I’ll admit I LOL’d at your post, but I still feel really, really bad for you and your doctor’s iphone.
My first birth totally changed the way I felt about things going in my vagina. In fact, I switched to using the Diva cup because I couldn’t bear the idea of sticking a dry wad of bleached cotton up there once a month.
Birth does weird things to a woman.
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don’t be so hard on yourself… i wasn’t thinking about my post-natal checkup after i had my daughter 3 years ago… but when I had it, it hurt SO MUCH that the doctor had to reschedule it for me as well.. (I was crying on the table).
so now, having gone through that experience once in my life, i too will probably act very similar to how you did…
most people don’t know how awful it is until they’ve been through it.. *HUGS*
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Oh my. I hope today was better. xo
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Oh. MY. GOD.
That is one of the funniest, and most horrifying posts of all time—I feel SO badly for you, don’t blame you, and at the same time want to high-five you for covering so much ground with the vomit.
And, just like Katelyn, I was completely petrified for my girly appointment two years ago—for no reason at all. Every other year, I sail right through, but a couple of times I’ve been out of my head with anxiety.
Also, thanks for the laugh today and I hope this appointment was GREAT!!
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Yeah, I was terrified too. Though I did not puke on the doc. It was not as awful as I thought it would be, but then again I did not have the trauma of shoving TK out through there either. (Though the doc did “palpate” - isn’t that the fancy word for PUSH AS HARD AS YOU CAN? - my uterus, and I was like, Hello, did you not know that I was CUT OPEN, are you too blind to see the bright red scar?) I had to bring TK because I didn’t have anyone watch her. I sat her carrier on the chair next to me, so she was practically eye level when I was laying down, and just kept my eyes on her and cooed at her the whole time. That made it a little more bearable at least.
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OMG, you poor thing. It really isn’t that bad. Mine didn’t even hurt. I mean it was uncomfortable for a second, but good grief, you made it through birth! Nothing to be worked up over.
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Oh my God, I can’t claim to relate to the post-partum thing, but you have every right to feel totally wigged out. I hate the annual pelvic exam with a passion, and then they always want to know why on earth my blood pressure is so high. I’m FREAKED out! Raised blood pressure is a normal response. This the the flight part of fight-or flight, and it’s all I can do to suck it up. So just DON’T harass me about my blood pressure! So the vomiting: I think you scored major points for the team. Hope today went better, though.
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Wow! I am so sorry that happened to you. I can’t identify with feeling that anxious about it, but who am I to judge?
I was always much more nervous about the sex after baby, mainly the first few times after my vaginal deliveries—-especially since breastfeeding hormones interfere with, uh, the juices.
But then it all got back to normal, or there’d be no little brothers and sisters, right?
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Uhm, here is a confession. I haven’t had my post partum check after Isaac’s birth. He’s 8 months old.
Even though I KNOW that it will be fine and that sex doesn’t hurt and I’m all healed. Even though I KNOW there won’t be a repeat of the last speculum check I had (25 weeks pregnant, infection, starting to go into pre-term labour, rough doctor), I still haven’t been.
It’s bad.
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Wow! Hope that when it does do down, it doesn’t freak out as much . . . perhaps in this case the anticipation is worse than the act? Fingers crossed!
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I don’t think you’re pathetic or a wuss. I don’t think this story is funny or silly. I think it’s sad, and worrisome.
I think you’re suffering from the effects of a traumatic birth. You didn’t post all the details of your birth story, and you said you were very satisfied or something like that…but from your comment above and in reply to my comment on one of your earlier posts….it sounds like you worked really hard laboring at home, then rushed to the hospital (the ER, no less), then all hell broke loose because OMG, you were HAVING A BABY, AND THE PAPERWORK WASN’T FILLED OUT! I understand the concerns about hemorrhage and tearing, so the doctors wanting to slow down your labor, but didn’t those things happen anyway?
It basically sounds like they drugged you to make your body conform to The Way Things Should Happen in A Hospital Birth. And then even after an epidural you still had a lot of pain (which is not that uncommon, but you don’t hear that from most people—they don’t want to admit that after giving in to an epi they didn’t want, or after raving about how much they were going to love it, it didn’t even work well). Anyway, all of that adds up to a big fat traumatic birth, in my mind at least. And it’s OKAY to feel traumatized.
But this isn’t about my mind, it’s about yours. If I were you, though, I’d listen to my body—when it pukes all over the doctor, maybe it’s saying “Let’s work through these issues.“ And maybe also, “Let’s find a gentler, more holistic care provider.“
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Rebecca - Although there are arguably a million reasons for The Puking Incident of 2009, I think that “irrational,“ is probably the best description. I can say without reservation that I do not think I had a traumatic birth.
The reasons that I did not post my birth story are twofold: a) it isn’t that interesting, and b) I feel that it is, in great part, my daughter’s story and not my own.
To be honest, I’ve always been a bit squeamish about the annual lady exam, and I think what happened here is that I just took “a bit squeamish” to a new level. I don’t know why - I never even feel it and it’s hardly uncomfortable. So I just classify it as an irrational fear, the way some people are afraid of spiders or dust bunnies or clowns. I really do think it was just an irrational fear that didn’t go well for the doctor or his iPhone.
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You poor thing! At least the doctor was cool about it and offered to give you the good stuff. :)
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THAT is a good one! I seriously think you could win a “most embarrassing” contest.
(Was it chunky puke, or liquid?)
By Heidi on September 15, 2009
I don’t get what you are so upset about? Didn’t you have these types of checkups your WHOLE PREGNANCY? And isn’t giving birth much worse? What are you so riled up over?