A year of compromises.
July 19, 2010

When I was five or six months pregnant, I read a book about the physical development of infants.  An entire book.  There were two chapters on hip dysplasia and pelvic development alone.  And one of those chapters really honed in on the evils of swaddling.

A couple weeks later, I mentioned OUT LOUD that I was NEVER going to swaddle my baby.  How could parents DARE swaddle their innocent babes?  Didn’t they know the damage they were causing to those tiny little hip bones?!  I would never do that to my child.  Not ever.

And then I gave birth and I’ll tell you what: I lasted maybe a week.

Shortly after Charlotte’s birth, I found out that those sudden jerky movements were the kiss of death for baby naps.  Like any other flabby postpartum woman, when the baby refused to nap, the top of my head flew open and my brain popped out.  And suddenly, intentionally harming my precious daughter’s pelvic development started to sound pretty good.  We swaddled Charlotte at night for the next three or four months.

Pretty happy and healthy despite the evil swaddling.

For the most part, Donald and I have stuck to our guns.  We wanted to cloth diaper and we have.  We did not want to endorse crying-it-out and we have not.  We wanted to try babywearing and we have.  We did not want to expose Charlotte to television and we have not.  We wanted to make our own wholesome baby food and we have.  We did not want to use pacifiers and we have not.

If I have learned anything over this past year, however, it is that compromise is the name of the parenting game.  I swore that I would never clothe a little girl in pink – and today my daughter’s wardrobe looks like a Pepto Bismol commercial.  I said that I would not let a baby cramp my social calendar or sense of style – and, quite frankly, I no longer know what a social calendar is and I only wear tops that I can comfortably breastfeed in.  I thought I would never use a sippy cup, but lo and behold, sippy cups of water litter my home.  And of course, THERE WAS THE SWADDLING.

These are my NEVERS, the things I claimed that I would never do, and then so totally did.  Most of the time, there’s no need to compromise what you have faith in as a parent.  But it seems to me that just about every parent compromises at least once.

Or, if they are me, like five billion times.

What about you?  What compromises have you made?  If you are not yet a parent, what do you say you will never do?

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  1. By Sarah@Crazy Love Gamble-Style on July 19, 2010

    I vowed never to let Ava take over our bed but she wouldn’t get one wink of sleep unless she remained attached to her all night buffet.  She slept against my skin for the first 4 months.  I couldn’t even get her to be ok with a bed RIGHT next to mine with my hand on her.  Crazy.  I also vowed to get her all potty trained super quickly.  I started a little before she turned one and thought by the time she was 1 1/2 she would surely be a pro.  It felt like a competitive race between other mothers.  I noticed some judging me for not potty training her fast enough.  I put up a good encouraging fight but in the end she really wasn’t going to do it until SHE was ready.  Thankfully she FINALLY is.  2 years and 7 months was her magic number.  I heard that it only takes ONE day to potty train your kids, it just has to be the RIGHT day.  : )

  2. By Amelia Sprout on July 19, 2010

    Pacifiers.  Swore I wouldn’t until it was the only way to get my kid with odd oral fixation issues to calm down.  Never interfered with breastfeeding for 18 months, so I don’t care anymore.  Each kid, and each parent is different.  You do what you have to.

  3. By Sheila on July 19, 2010

    I put my baby to sleep on his tummy.  I know, the one thing you’re NEVER supposed to do!  I did try to train him to sleep on his back, but he just won’t do it, even if I’m with him.  He was a tummy sleeper in the womb, too; I think it can’t be helped.

    Cosleeping was something I wanted to do, but baby and I both just stayed awake staring at each other!  We were both exhausted, but couldn’t sleep except in our separate beds.  I’m hoping the next one will sleep with me.  Until then, I keep the crib right next to the bed.

  4. By C Lo on July 19, 2010

    I had A LOT when I was a first time parent. I stuck to MOST of them with my first child, but in hind sight I realize that I was privileged to be able to stick with them at that time in my life. My first child was a ridiculously easy baby (I realize that now) and I was a student with a flexible schedule and kind professors.

    I’ve compromised most everything. I tried giving my boys pacifiers ( they didn’t like them), my kids watch TV. A lot. Lots of times they DONT have organic fruit.

    I realized that a lot of things don’t work for every kid and every family. And that there is really only one thing that is worth NOT compromising on: letting your children know they are loved. My kids hear “i love you” every day and that will never change. No matter how mad or frustrated I am, that’s the one thing that I think is the MOST important that I won’t ever compromise on. Them watching Yo Gabba Gabba a few times a week won’t scar them NEARLY as much as thinking they are unloved would.

  5. By Naomi on July 19, 2010

    I swore I would never leave my infant with anyone then my husband…then I had this easy goingthird baby, and three kids and a lot to do…..so Ihave left her for a hour here or there with my MIL, mom or a good freind. She is almost 3 months. My other two would not let this happen anyway due to their personalities but she is very tolerant.

  6. By on July 19, 2010

    I always said I wouldn’t give Kellen a pacifier or a blankie/lovie for him to get attached to. But, you see my child most days walking around with a pacifier in his mouth and dragging his blue Lovie Bear around everywhere. I know it will be easier to break him of the pacifier/blanket then it would be to break him of thumbsucking, which is what he was starting to do when I gave him the pacifier. I did not want to deal with trying to figure out how to get him to stop sucking his thumb, so pacifier it was. We are going to be starting to leave the pacifier in his crib in the next few days, so it is for sleep only, because my clutzy kid fell with it in his mouth yesterday and busted his lip. So, we are starting the weaning process soon.

  7. By Courtney L @ Bundle of Wonder on July 19, 2010

    I swore Harper would never sleep in our bed, cause you know, it’s so dangerous.  But then I read about how to do it safely, brought her to bed with me after some really horrible colic-y nights, and we both slept wonderfully.  We’ve been a co-sleeping family ever since!

    BTW, I had never heard that swaddling was supposedly bad for them!  While Harper was in the NICU the nurses were the ones that always swaddled her.  As of last week we stopped swaddling her because she gets too hot.  She seems just fine to me so far :0/

  8. By Sarah Christensen on July 19, 2010

    C Lo - That is so true.  I would compromise just about everything so long as Charlotte knew she were loved =)

  9. By Sarah Christensen on July 19, 2010

    Erin - Charlotte has had a lovey for months - a little mouse plush toy we named Rudy.  OH MY GOODNESS, if I leave the house without that toy, do I ever hear about it.  Unless we’re going to the grandparents’ house.  She is very forgiving when grandparents are involved lol.

  10. By on July 19, 2010

    As the mom of a 4 and 5 year old I have compromised a lot - especially with the second one. We didn’t to cloth diapers with him and he did spend more time in his car seat/bouncer. But I have to give myself a break, my daughter was 1 when he was born and we did the best we could. The one thing I have stuck to is organic milk and mostly organic fruit/veggies/dairy/meat and I always had the kids nap at home and have a strict bedtime. Sleep and routine are very important to me. One thing I have REALLY learned is to not judge other mothers! So often before I had kids, I would see moms in the store bribing kids, pushing crying kids in shopping carts, yelling and would judge their parenting but now I realize that I don’t know what the kids is like, what their day has been like and you just never know. It’s far better to have compassion for other moms than to judge their parenting choices from the outside. Walk a mile in their shoes and all that…. : )

  11. By C Lo on July 19, 2010

    @Sarah S
    AMEN! I was the absolute WORST when I was a mom of just one. When I had more, and when I had more difficult children, I changed my tune. There is very little I can judge. And even things like circing, which I am ADAMANTLY against…..very loving, otherwise nice moms make choices I strongly am against, but you know what? Their kids are loved. Maybe we don’t all agree on every issue, but if they are raising their children in a loving home, what can I do? What good does it do to create enemies out of women who would otherwise be my friend?


  12. By Sarah Christensen on July 19, 2010

    Sarah S and C Lo - HEAR HEAR!  I think I was lucky because before having a baby, I was around other mothers so often that I learned early on not to judge.  I always said when I was pregnant that as long as the parent was loving and doing the best they could with their child(ren) in mind, I would refrain from judging.  You never know what brings a parent to make one decision over another.

    What’s right for one baby or family isn’t necessarily right for another baby or family, and I think people too quickly forget that two sets of wonderful, loving parents can make completely contradicting decisions because they have totally different situations.  In other circumstances, I might have compromised more or less or just differently, who knows?  And I might compromise more with the second or third than I did with the first.  We don’t all have to agree - but if we want our kids to get along, then we have to at least try to get along ourselves, right?

  13. By bethany actually on July 19, 2010

    @C Lo - “What good does it do to create enemies out of women who would otherwise be my friends?“

    AMEN. :-)

  14. By Jill on July 19, 2010

    Not pregnant yet, but trying, I have such a laughably long list of will-nevers!  I’m already practicing my self-forgiveness, because I know that sometimes sleep is more important than no television, cloth diapers, breast-only, homemade baby food, elimination communication, attachment parenting, baby-wearing, quickly getting my body back into shape, eating organic so my breast milk is as wholesome as possible, having a sex life, using baby sign, having a clean house, and continuing to walk my dog every day…

  15. By on July 19, 2010

    I love how people say they’re going to do things before they even start something. You’ve just got to go with the flow sometimes. : )

    My sister swore she would never use a pacifier. She hated them and didn’t even have them in the house. Of course she ended up getting them for gifts though. And, you know what, she never ever used a pacifier for her son. He was a happy, calm baby and was satisfied to just lie around without anything to do. She thought she won.

    Then she had her daughter. A tiny screaming machine we aptly nicknamed “Little Monster”. She was not calm. We could rock her, walk with her, feed her and she was angry. But then I gave her a pacifier and, lo and behold! she was calm. She used one because she needed to suck on something and she didn’t want to eat. When she got a little older she only used it for naps and when she started toddling and talking it went away without a fuss (except if she ever comes across one that was lost she’ll still pop it in her mouth at two, but she doesn’t care when you take it from her).

    You can have the best made plans until the baby actually comes. : )

  16. By elizabeth Mackey on July 19, 2010

    I have never heard of swaddling causing hip issues!

    I was born with hip dysplasia, and my oldest was diagnosed with it at one day old. I’m not so sure that swaddling would cause hip issues? I’m no expert, but I think it is a genetic thing that happens. Pediatric doctors constantly check for that clicking, so at least they are doing that now.
    I just had a total hip replacement at the age of 47, and every time any one is pregnant that I know, I always tell them to keep alert with that, but I had never heard of swaddling causing this.

  17. By on July 19, 2010

    How’s this:
    I was never going to co-sleep OR do cry-it-out and I have done both! haha

    I stuck with breastfeeding even though my Charlotte wouldn’t latch for 3 months. And have never plopped her in front of cartoons (sometimes TV is on other stuff for grownups, but she just ignores).

    I can’t think of any other “I nevers” that I had pre-pg. I broke nearly all my pg “I nevers”: Took meds while pg (it was that or die of dehydration), was induced, had an epidural, had an episiotomy, had a c-section ...

    Oh, well. She’s here, she’s healthy and she’s usually happy. (Just learned how to say “NO” though, whee!) And she’s most definitely loved.

  18. By Andrea {Gwyneth Paige} on July 19, 2010

    1) I NEVER would carry my baby in a car seat.  Car seats are for the car. —Stuck to it.

    2) I was going to co-sleep until baby was ready to be in his own room. — He hated co-sleeping, loved his own QUIET space to be in.  We co-slept till 4 months only.

    3) I would NEVER use formula, not ever.  Human milk for human babies.  — Introduce going back to work when baby was 10 weeks old, working cow, growth spurts, no sleep due to two hour pumping intervals all night long plus nightly nursing… We relied on formula from age 9.5 months to 12 months…

    4) I would NEVER let my baby CIO — stuck to it.

    5) NO Nickelodeon for my baby. Books, toys, are enough — sent him to the sitter, come to find out a little TV hasn’t killed him yet and the backyardagains are pretty darn cute.

    I think those were my top five.  I would like to say that I have a healthy, smart, well-adjusted almost-three year old who has been signing since 6 months old, speaking since 16 months old and refuses to potty train.

    I think we are doing just right.

  19. By Dana on July 19, 2010

    I always said my kiddos won’t be in bed with us. But…Now I love the mornings too early or not when my older kiddos curl into the bed. #3 is still in her crib but soon she will be there too :-)

  20. By Cynthia Krajcarski on July 19, 2010

    I actually didn’t compromise anything, because I didn’t know what kind of a parent I was going to be. The one thing I didn’t want was a pacifier, and we never used a pacifier.

    I have A LOT of things that I say now, that I don’t want to compromise in the future… Like Saturdays are strictly family days and we’re going to eat junk (like fast food) so rarely that the kids will be all “Aw, Mom… Do we have to eat a Big Mac for dinner?“

  21. By on July 19, 2010

    I am sure there are 100’s of things I said I would never do….I wanted to be the PERFECT parent, but of course we all know, there isn’t one of those in this world!!!! Parenting is so hard, you make it up as you go!
    LOVe that picture of your little CUTIE!!!!!

  22. By Cambria on July 19, 2010

    I didn’t think I’d allow TV till she was older. But I did. We are selective about what she watches and it’s not so bad.

    I didn’t think I’d cosleep. But I did.

  23. By Sarah Christensen on July 19, 2010

    Tara - My neighbor says you can look at it as there are no perfect parents, or you can look at it as every parent has the potential to be the perfect parent for their kid and if you try hard and love harder, you probably hit the mark.

    I love that, because goodness knows when I fail, I still love hard =)

    Andrea - I had the same car-seat one too.  We stuck to it, ALMOST.  One time, she was finally asleep, so we brought it into the house.  She woke up like two minutes later and I was ticked that I broke my ‘rule’ for only two minutes lol.  I’d forgotten all about that!

    Elizabeth and Courtney - The premise is that in swaddling, you encourage their little frog legs to be straightened out and babies (hereditary conditions excluded) joints need their hips in the more natural frog position to develop properly.  Most babies do just fine with swaddling, but communities that encourage swaddling also have higher rates of various pelvic development problems and individuals who are swaddled more tightly or frequently are more likely to encounter problems than children who are not.  Like all things, it’s not an every-child problem, but when I was pregnant, I thought that by eliminating swaddling then I would eliminate the possibility of problems outside of anything genetic.  I don’t know why, but it seemed Very Important to me not to swaddle because of this.  When I mentioned it to the doctor, she agreed that in an ideal world babies limbs would be allowed to develop naturally, but pointed out that it’s not really possible in our society.  We use car-seats, for example, which force a baby’s legs into the position most conducive to a safety harness, etc.

    Honestly, we swaddled and her hips are fine.  I was very worried about it at the time, but I guess now I know to pick my battles.  Swaddling wasn’t really a battle worth picking.

  24. By on July 19, 2010

    What is elimination communication??

    Pretty much every little parenting goal I set has gone out the window, and I don’t mind one bit because Jude and I are taking things day by day and figuring out what works and what doesn’t. :)

  25. By Heidi on July 19, 2010

    I feel like a total dumbass, but what on earth is SWADDLING?

  26. By Sarah Christensen on July 19, 2010

    Heidi - It’s when you wrap the kid up and make a little baby burrito.


    Sadly, that’s the best picture I can find in my archives, but most of the time when you see a swaddled baby, they don’t have their arms free.  They’re all wrapped up tidy.

  27. By Heidi on July 19, 2010

    Oh my, we wouldn’t have survived without swaddling.  I was actually very worried to stop doing it, but one night, we just didn’t and she slept all night. 

    One of my NEVERS was using a pacifier.  But it worked well for us and now I only keep them in her crib for naps and bedtime. 

    Like Jessica, I had a lot more NEVERS about pregnancy/labor and delivery.  I wanted a natural childbirth with no drugs, no c-section, no induction.  Well, two weeks after my due date, they induced me.  12 hours later, I had an epidural.  Four more hours and an oxygen tank later, I had an emergency c-section. 

    I’m not sure if I was more scared of the parenting aspect so I didn’t set my expectations too high (I’m a marathon runner, so I thought labor would be a breeze!) or if my labor caused me to throw my NEVERS out the window.  Either way, Molly is one loved little baby…

  28. By beyond on July 19, 2010

    Heidi, you must be european, and we don’t swaddle our babies (so much anymore). when you swaddle a baby, you snuggly wrap them more or less tightly in a big piece of cloth. i had never seen this practice before i moved to north america and thought it was quite strange. apparently it helps babies sleep and stay asleep.

  29. By Sarah on July 19, 2010

    I would like to start this by saying that this post and the comments made me happy because everyone was so positive. I always say that a mother’s worst enemy is other judgemental mothers . I worked in daycare before having kids and my number one rule was NO JUICE!! yeah we go thru multiple bottles a week now!! oh well, thanks again everyone for sharing our differences and embracing them. I am pretty sure because we are such great moms, we are gonna raise some AWESOME kids!1 keep on rockin super mamas!

  30. By on July 19, 2010

    No tv? At all? Not even Sesame Street or Arthur or the Berenstein Bears? Will she always be kept from tv? Do you guys let her watch Disney movies?

    I’m not condemning the no-tv thing, I’m just curious. =)

    p.s. Your daughter is GORGEOUS!

  31. By Sarah Christensen on July 19, 2010

    Mailis - Elimination communication is a sort of potty training, kind of.  I’m not super clear on it, but my understanding is that the premise is that you can entirely or predominantly avoid diapers from birth without many accidents if you respond to an infant’s cues promptly and somehow use those cues to ‘teach’ them to use the toilet.  I think.  I’ve heard some mothers talk about it in reference to potty-training older children, but I think some people try to do it from birth?  Maybe?  I don’t think it’s an anti-diaper system, just an as-few-as-possible system.

    Does anybody else know?

  32. By Sarah Christensen on July 19, 2010

    Rachel - So far, no television at all.  And don’t worry about it, I’m not bothered by questions =)

    It’s very easy to go without tv in our home because we don’t have one.  I mean, we do, we own a set, but it’s locked up in a closet.  So if we really want to watch something, we cue it up on Netflix and watch it on the computer after the baby’s asleep.  I was raised without television (for the most part - I remember when my parents bought a new set when I was a teenager) and Donald and I have found that we don’t really miss it.

    As for the future: who knows?!  The two of us go back and forth.  On the one hand, having been raised without television, I realize that a kid without tv really feels like a social outcast sometimes.  A little pop culture knowledge goes a long way.  On the other hand, there’s really no need, is there?  People have gotten on without it for eons, haven’t they?  So I think the happy medium we’ll probably end up striking is that at some point, we’ll hook up a television in our home and periodically view it with our kids (the no-tv has nothing to do with sheltering, it’s more just a lifestyle choice), but we won’t put it in the living room or allow it to be turned on when guests are over.

    But I can’t really say for sure.  We’ll probably play it all by ear…

  33. By on July 19, 2010

    What I’ve heard about elimination communication is that it’s more like potty training Mommy than Baby. You learn baby’s cues and put him/her over the potty when it’s time.

  34. By Cynthia Krajcarski on July 19, 2010

    I strongly agree with the no TV thing. It’s not that I think TV is bad, I just don’t want it to consume an of my time with Isla… And in the future I don’t want TV v. Homework battles, or equating spending time in front of the television as quality family time.

    Luke and I usually start watching a movie when she has her bottle before bed, so she sees our TV on… But she seems so uninterested. I don’t mind her watching things that are visually stimulating though—I’ve put in one of the DVDs from the Planet Earth series, thinking that it would be so amazing for her to see such incredible images… She watched for a few seconds, said her “Oooh… WOW!“ and then crawled away.

  35. By Cynthia Krajcarski on July 19, 2010

    And about ECing, Sarah you nailed it.

    It still scares the bejeebus out of me.

  36. By Sarah Christensen on July 19, 2010

    Cynthia - LOL me too!  I know a woman who’s planning on starting it when her baby turns one in a couple months.  I just look at Charlotte right now and cannot even begin to imagine what that must be like.  It seems like it has the potential to be very, very messy.

    But then, I keep thinking that, as with pretty much all things in parenthood, it might be that you just need to see it in practice before you can fathom taking the leap yourself, you know?  Like, I didn’t feel comfortable cloth diapering until I saw someone else doing it and realized it was, in fact, do-able.  I don’t really see EC as an option for my family right now, but maybe if I saw it in action, I’d change my tune?

  37. By Cynthia Krajcarski on July 19, 2010

    It’s possible that you’d need to co-experience it with someone else and their baby first… But still, it scares me.

    I’ve been thinking about it since I first read an article in Mothering… In my mind I said it’s something I’d like to try once Isla is walking. Thankfully (for my fear of ECing and for my not wanting her to get into even more trouble than she does now), she hasn’t started walking yet. But she is quite the cruiser, so walking is just around the corner… We have a potty, and she’s not afraid of it… So, we may be ECing soon.

    And so, So, SO messy it will be.

  38. By Hollie on July 19, 2010

    I was NEVER going to do juice.  Never did with #1, then #2 came along and fought constant constipation.  Dr recommended juice—I cringed, and gave in.  Now, I kind of laugh at myself!

    I stuck my guns with #1, quite easily, but boy did my tune change when baby #2 came along.  He was just so different.  Baby #1 played by my rules, baby #2 turned his nose up to my rules and required the book to be rewritten ;-)

  39. By Sarah Christensen on July 19, 2010

    Cynthia - Do you have one of those potty chairs that is independent of the toilet?  I think that’s my biggest issue with EC - I don’t like potty chairs and it’s not like it’s really societally acceptable to train her to a tree outside lol.

    Although, can you imagine how many cute nakey-bottom pictures you’ll get when your kid can run around the house in the buff?  Heh.

  40. By Cynthia Krajcarski on July 19, 2010

    We do have an independent potty… I wanted Isla to be able to reach it without having to climb a nine-foot ladder. I also wanted her to have her own potty, like a sense of entitlement.

    We have a Baby Bjorn Potty Chair in white. It’s looks like a normal toilet, just smaller and without plumbing and the “cup” comes out, so I can easily clean it in our bathroom sink.

    I didn’t want one of those “fun” toilets… I think potty training/ECing is serious business. I don’t need Elmo giving her high fives of praise.

    And baby bums are my kryptonite. I just love myself a chubby little bum. I can just imagine our babes running around our houses all nekkid, squealing because we’re chasing them to take a bite of their bum.

  41. By Jaime@Georgia365 on July 19, 2010

    The ones that jump out at me:

    - I said I’d have my daughter out of her co-sleeper and into her crib by 6 months.  She’s now 9 months and has yet to spend a night in her crib.

    - I said NO Television.  NONE.  We are now the proud (and sane) owners of several Baby Einstein DVDs.

    - I said I would never use formula, ever, ever.  That’s a curse word in the family I grew up in.  Well, a bad case of Mastitis which turned to surgery and low supply changed that tune.  We started supplementing with formula at four months.  I still nurse though with the remaining “good” boob.

  42. By Amber on July 19, 2010

    OK, I can chime in here about the potty chair thing—but this is from my own memories, LOL!

    I remember being potty trained because it was very traumatic for me (hear me out, I am serious here)—and it is ALL because my parents got me one of those “fun” potty chairs. Basically it would play a song whenever I went to the bathroom in it, alerting the family to what I had done—and the song DIFFERED depending on whether it was #1 or #2. Despite the fact that this is undeniably advanced technology for 1984, I was ABSOLUTELY.MORTIFIED. by this thing, because not only would it let EVERYONE know about my private business, but of course my parents would run in whooping and clapping and making a huge show of it.

    Ugh. Seriously. To this day I have anxiety about 1) using public restrooms, and 2) people giving me what I feel is “excessive praise”—and I can trace the genesis of this feeling BACK TO THE FRIGGING POTTY CHAIR! ;P

    Yes I still make my mother feel bad about it, too, so, you know, beware ;)

    </ neurotic only child >

  43. By Cynthia Krajcarski on July 19, 2010

    Amber - That is totally something that I was trying to avoid!

    My best friend told me that one of the kids in the daycare that her son goes to, she won’t go to the potty anymore because her mom made such a HUGE fuss over it. So knowing that, and knowing how freaked out I would be if my toilet started telling me how proud it was that I made a stinky… Well, I just knew we had to go with something normal.

    I had a normal potty and my potty habits are very well adjusted.

    And can you imagine cleaning a potty that electronic? I mean, there’s got to be pee and poop in crevices that you can’t even reach with a Q-Tip.

  44. By Amber on July 19, 2010

    Just imagine if it short-circuited during twinkle twinkle little star or something !  Hah! :)

  45. By Elizabeth on July 19, 2010

    I said I’d never co-sleep.  HA!  (said by a woman who has her third child in bed with her, nightly)

  46. By on July 20, 2010

    My big two were no pacifiers and no juice. Mikayla used a pacifier for about 2 weeks and remarkably never really liked it. After that we never used it again.

    And as far as juice goes, she is now two and has still never had any! I’m glad we’ve stuck to our guns on that one, I really believe she doesn’t need it.

  47. By on July 20, 2010

    I think it’s easier to think of the things I stuck with because there were so many compromises.
    The 3 that come to mind are juice is a once in a while thing, no cry it out and to instill a love for reading early on.

  48. By Sarah Christensen on July 20, 2010

    Kyla - I can relate to that.  When I wrote the post, I was all, look at me, I stuck to my guns all the time.

    Then all day long yesterday I came up with new compromises until my list was five times longer than my stick-to-my-guns list.  LOL.

    Amber - I know that’s probably not supposed to be funny, but it is pretty damned funny.  I remember being potty-trained too, but that’s because I put my parents through hell.  Both of my younger sisters were effectively potty trained before I stopped bed-wetting.

    Also, I can’t believe you guys mentioned short-circuiting.  I’ll be laughing about that all day =P

  49. By Cynthia Krajcarski on July 20, 2010

    Amber - Wouldn’t it be TINKLE, TINKLE Little Star?

    Haha… I crack myself up.

  50. By Mallory on July 20, 2010

    When I was pregnant, I swore we’d never use pacifiers.  And then Des was born, and all he wanted to do was suckle.  So in went the pacifier. 

    I also swore that we’d never co-sleep (being that the hubby is a crazy, dead to the world sleeper), but by 3 months, Des was regularly sleeping in our bed.

  51. By christy on June 02, 2011

    a year late on commenting (i’m always reading your archives since i have a july 2010 baby), but loved the little conversation that went on here about EC. i think you are right; it scares you but you havent seen it in action.  you should do it on baby #2.  it is very easy and you avoid having to clean up pretty much all poop; babies figure out that poop goes in the potty VERY early in life.  i dont really “read his cues”, i just “tell him” when to go.  and he does.  period.  easy!

  52. By social media marketing companies on March 27, 2014

    Very nice blog. Baby photo is very cute. Thanks for the post.





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