Letter to my punkin: 30 months.
January 24, 2012

Dear Charlotte,

You are two and a half years old now and as testament to the whirlwind life has become with a two and a half year old child in the house, I didn’t even notice you’d hit the big milestone until half a week later.  Sorry, kiddo.

If it makes you feel better, one year I forgot your Auntie E’s birthday.  We all made plans to go out to dinner at a local Mexican restaurant – and I plumb forgot.  Your grandfather left me a series of a dozen voice messages where all that was recorded was mariachi music.

And you weren’t even born then.  I couldn’t even say it was because I was busy stomping in rain puddles or fishing monster boogers out of a pint-sized nose or something equally riveting.

The last month with you has been, as every month with you is, excellent.  You are a firecracker – always telling stories and imagining fascinating things and running around like a wild animal.  You are also hugely in love with singing (you can sing about half a dozen French nursery rhymes now CUTEST THING EVER) and dancing (although strangely not keen on my dancing…) and jumping.  You are silly and clever and wonderful and we love you like crazy.

There are two really big cool things that have happened this month and the first one is this: you can use the toilet by yourself.  At least once a day, you announce that you need to use the bathroom and you do everything from opening the toilet lid to washing and drying your hands all by yourself – except for wiping.  It’s freaking amazing.  When you’re thirty, don’t be surprised if I’m STILL amazed that you can perform basic bathroom tasks without me.

The second really cool big thing is that your father and I made the decision to proceed with adoption through the domestic foster-care system.  It could take a few months or it could take a few years – this largely depends on whether or not we get pregnant in the next six months – but either way you are going to have a sibling.

There are sacrifices that our family will be making to this end and one of those is that we are going to be fixing up the spare room and preparing you for the move into Your! Very! Own! Room!  I would be lying if I said that we weren’t nervous about this.  We are.  But at the end of the day, we keep coming back to this: a sibling.

There is nothing in this world that your father and I will ever be able to give you that will matter as much to you as a sibling.  You won’t always get along.  Sometimes you’re going to royally fuck up (see also: that time when I forgot my sister’s birthday).  But at the end of the day, a sibling is a blessing.  You will always, no matter what, have each other.

In other news, you are totally weird.  And cool.  All at once.

And try as I might, I simply cannot think of anything more beautiful than that.

We love you more than bears love honey, (and everyone knows that’s an awful lot),
Momma and Daddy

P.S.  This month you also figured out not to wake me up on Saturday mornings.  THANK YOU!

Related Posts with Thumbnails
twitter / becomingsarah Bookmark and Share

  1. By Megan R. on January 24, 2012

    Happy 2.5 years, Charlotte!  It goes fast, as “they” say.  I am amazed by what this age brings….totally with ya on the bathroom thing.  Finnley is turning fiercely independent, too.  Sigh!  And, ahhhhhh!  Anyway, congrats on the decision to move forward with providing a sibling for Charlotte, regardless of how and when it happens.  I’m sure the transition will go well to her big girl room…these kiddos are amazingly resilient and easily transitioned (in my experience, anyway).  You might not transition as easily as she does, however!  ha!  Best to you all!

  2. By Tabitha (From Single to Married) on January 24, 2012

    so sweet.  And so glad to hear about the adoption process moving forward - fingers crossed for you guys!

  3. By tara pollard pakosta on January 24, 2012

    this is true: there is NO greater gift than that of a sibling. truly. I have one big sister ( 10 months older) and 5 big brothers & they are all a treasure to me.

    can’t wait for you to have another baby or adopt a child, whatever happens! can’t wait!

    p.s. can you video her singing French songs and share? I WANT TO HEAR THAT! I am betting it’s the cutest thing in the world!!!!!!!


  4. By Sarah on January 24, 2012

    awesome. I think siblings are the best gift you can give your child.

  5. By Taryn on January 25, 2012


    p.s. why are you hiding the secret to getting Charlotte to let you sleep in?

  6. By on January 25, 2012

    i would love to hear your saturday morning trick too..
    does it involve locking daughter and husband in the garage ?

    and YES we need a video of Charlotte singing !

    congratulations on deciding to go further with the adoption process. i can only agree. even now, being an adult, i don’t know what i would do without my older sister !

  7. By on January 25, 2012

    Congratulations on your decision! X

  8. By on January 25, 2012

    Happy half birthday Charlotte! I agree with you on the sibling thing..my sister and I are very close and I pray that when we have our 2nd one, it’ll be a girl. Also, my younger brother and sister forgot my birthday one year. When my brother called the next day, I jokingly gave him a hard time about it. My sis (she was newly married) still hadn’t called so, I called her and burst into tears about how she’d forgotten me now that she had a husband. I still give them both a hard time about it. Love that part.

  9. By on January 25, 2012

    Also..that photo of Charlotte smiling..I can’t even look at it directly. I’m afraid the cuteness might kill me if I did. She radiates pure happiness.





Remember my personal information

Notify me of follow-up comments?