Mommy goggles.
February 15, 2010

Parenthood has transformed every facet of my life.

I knew that this would happen.  I knew that having a child would change everything from my daily routine to how often I poop.  But I guess that sometimes KNOWING and EXPERIENCING change are two completely different animals.

The single most unexpected part of this has been the great perspective change that I call MOMMY GOGGLES.  I see everything through Mommy Goggles these days, EVERYTHING.

My marriage is no longer a relationship between two people; it is the cornerstone of a family.  My bedroom is no longer four walls with a bed stashed inside; it is the place I brought my child home to.  My house is no longer a hungry money pit with horrid windows; it is a home.

My friendships are no longer worth maintaining unless they understand that sometimes it takes me seven months to make a phone call – because, well, I’m busy cooing at the baby.  Relatives are about five billion times more important to me – because they love to make my child smile.  Heck, for the first time EVER, I finally understand my parents.

And the rose-tinted Mommy Goggles do not stop there.  I babble happily at babies in public when I might have previously passed them by.  I give a thumbs-up or an understanding smile whenever I see another nursing mother, even though a year ago I’d have averted my eyes.  I take time to smell flowers and touch tree bark on morning walks.  A few days ago, I went outside during Charlotte’s nap and brought in a pile of rocks.  I scrubbed them up and waited eagerly for her to wake up so that we could play with them.

ROCKS.  I wanted to play with ROCKS.

On that note, Mommy Goggles have not only enriched my personal relationships and convinced me to stop and smell the roses, they have also turned me completely insane.

So: do you have Mommy Goggles too?

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  1. By Dandy on February 15, 2010

    I’m sort of a dork like that now so having a baby might be dangerous.

  2. By Hillary on February 15, 2010

    when i heard babies cry in a store i used to get annoyed - now all i want to do is go and comfort them!  i never fully realized how much my life was going to change until after my babies were born.

  3. By Lori @ I Can Grow People on February 15, 2010

    I DEFINITELY have Baby Goggles!  Especially when it comes to returning phone calls and e-mails.  I work full-time and only get to spend 3 hours a day with my little one during the week.  That time is very precious to me and I would rather being playing with my baby than on the phone or at the computer.

  4. By Amber on February 15, 2010

    OK. So THIS is what scares me ABSOLUTELY the most about the prospect of becoming a mother. You NAILED it on the head, Sarah! Short term what scares me is the act of pregnancy and how that turns your body into something alien—but that is only 9 months long & then your body supposedly recovers, right? But THIS—this is FOREVER. And it freaks me out. I don’t want to seem insensitive or weird but it seems like some kind of biological mind control D: D: D: D:

  5. By on February 15, 2010

    I totally have mommy goggles. Valentines day used to be all about romance. Last night as my husband poured us a glass of wine I said just a sip for me I have to feed aiden later. Then after he finished cooking dinner and was setting the table I said why don’t you move to the other side and we can push aidens high chair up to the table. Romance pffff. Our little family? I swoon.

  6. By Mailis on February 15, 2010

    I, too, have bionic mommy goggles.

    Despite the fact that the baby-daddy pretty much abandoned us before the Judelbug was even born, never visits and doesn’t help with baby expenses…I am the happiest I have ever been. Who has time to think about it? Who even cares?

    I may not have very many moments to myself. I may forget to eat all day and end up ready to eat even a diaper by dinner time…but, I don’t have to share my baby. His first word, at less than 2 months, was “mom”.

    This situation, while not ideal, is what life has dealt me. And, while I may have valid reasons to complain,  I can only count my many blessings. :)

  7. By My First Kitchen on February 15, 2010

    Because of something I call Mommy Brain, I can’t remember if I’ve commented here before, BUT this blog is music to my ears. My son is three months old, and I just realized a couple of days ago that I pee like twice a day. Not because I need to less often but because I DON’T HAVE TIME. Coming here just makes me smile because I don’t feel alone. And I love my Mommy Goggles. Sometimes (okay, A LOT) they get clouded up with my more than occasional tears, but I love them anyway. Thanks for this place. It makes me feel at home.

  8. By Sarah Gamble on February 15, 2010

    I don’t think the mommy goggles EVER go away, I could be wrong but I doubt it.  What is life without being able to see it through the joys and innocence of a child?  I hope I can hold onto them forever.

  9. By kerri on February 15, 2010

    i love my mommy goggles. before ella was born i was very caught up on things being perfect in our house…scuff marks…dust…clutter…now i don’t let it get to me…i am so much more relaxed about it. mainly because i would rather be playing with ella than cleaning.
    there are more important things…SHE IS the more important thing!
    i love how the most simple things make her smile…and i smile too.

  10. By t on February 15, 2010

    Mommy goggles… good term. Yes, they are permanently strapped to my face, no matter how hard I may try to yank them off. I jest! I jest. It can be a little tiresome when they are no longer squishy and munchable, though. God makes babies edible because raising a ten year old without those years and years of adoring love would be next to impossible. People who adopt older children have my utter and absolute awe.

  11. By on February 15, 2010

    Hi Sarah, I’ve read your entire blog during the weekend, pretty cool!
    I’m totally terrified of mommy goggles…. I don’t want to sound insensitive, but since I don’t have children I can’t understand those feelings… and that really scares me :P
    My boyfriend and I want to have a baby sometime in our lives, we plan to start a family in two or three years… and I’m guessing he’ll be the one cooing and buying cute baby stuff at the begining, you see he’s just like that he absolutely adores children… me on the other hand… yeah I kind of like them… but not when they are crying and screaming it really goes beyond my comprehension.
    I don’t know… maybe I’ll have my mommy goggles too some day and I’ll tell you about it.

    Thank you for posting your journey through motherhood and let me know that it is ok being who I am.

    Regards,

    Kutusha

  12. By Elizabeth on February 15, 2010

    Sigh.  Awesome goggles.  Awesome.

  13. By Jaimey on February 15, 2010

    Totally get the mommy goggles! Aren’t they great?! I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

    And my feed for you seems to be fine- whatever you did works now. :)

  14. By Christie - Childhood 101 on February 15, 2010

    Oh yes, the mommy goggles.  Mine are covered in sticky fingerprints!

  15. By on February 16, 2010

    Mommy Goggles.  You have given a great name to describe this new way I look at life since the birth of my son (he is now almost 6 months old!!) 

    I absolutely love your blog.  Your words touch on the familiar so much so that sometimes I feel like you are writing exactly what I am thinking. 

    Thank you for sharing-it feels good to know someone else thinks all of these crazy and fabulous things too!

  16. By Cynthia on February 17, 2010

    MOMMY GOGGLES! That is an incredible name… I never even thought to give it a name.

    Indeed, I do have Mommy Goggles. Everything is brighter, all the colours are more vibrant, and the smells are sweeter (even the stinky ones). However, Mommy Goggles also amplify all the dangers in the world (for me anyway)... Like falling down the stairs or someone breaking into the house or a bottle of Windex

  17. By Mrs. Sitcom on February 25, 2010

    Rocks, huh?!

    :)


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