My boobies need to go night-night too.
November 04, 2009

No amount of scratching our heads has revealed to either Donald or I why Charlotte stopped sleeping through the night.  She was snoozing nine, ten, sometimes eleven or twelve hours a pop and all was well in the world and then BAM! overnight everything changed.  In the world of baby sleep, we pretty much went from a chauffeur-driven Ferrari to a puke-colored junker with duct tape on the brake lights.

When it started, she only woke up once a night.  Then she started waking up twice a night.  Then three times a night.  Four times.  Five.  And then she began to wake up EVERY HOUR, KILL ME NOW, all in the name of sucking down a little milk.  For the first time in my life, I have actually been tempted to try a bit of the magical juice myself, just to see if it’s really worth interrupting sleep for.


Would you look at that?  You can hardly even see the dark circles under my eyes.

As it turns out, a woman needs more than fifty-nine minute increments of sleep.  So what did Donald and I, winners of the Desperate New Parents Award 2009, do while you went trick-or-treating this weekend?  We hunkered down with about five billion books and newspaper articles about babies and how they sleep.

You’re turning green with envy right now, aren’t you?

As far as I can tell, about 99.99999% of sleep advice that we stumbled upon is absolute crap.  But we were not to be deterred from our task!  We were going to find that gem of wisdom among the .00001% of sleep advice that was left, NO MATTER WHAT.  So we read.  And read.  And read some more.  And then, we read.  And to break up the monotony, we read.  We read, read, read, read, read.

By the end of the weekend, we had come to the conclusion that it was time to night-wean Charlotte.

Night-weaning was about the last thing in the world that I wanted to do, but a woman will do some crazy stuff in order to get a little shut-eye.  Now that it has been DAYS since I have seen two consecutive hours of sleep?  I would sell my liver to a band of traveling gypsies, would swallow a flaming sword, heck, if Jabba the Hut were real, I would make out with his flabby ass.  In public.  TWICE.

Anyway, we decided to night-wean Charlotte.  We know that she can sleep (and has slept) a full night without refueling the tank a dozen times, so we hatched a grand plot and put it into action.  And I know that it would make a hilarious post if I were able to tell you that we’ve been failing and that we were gaining quite the collection of photographs taken at 2am of a milk-drunk wide-awake certain someone, but the truth is that it has been going really well.  Lately, she’s only been waking up every sixty-two minutes.

Please, someone, anyone, EVERYONE, impart upon me your wisdom before the sleep deprivation swallows me whole.


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  1. By on November 04, 2009

    She’s still in your bed, right?  What if she slept next to Donald instead of you, so she didn’t have easy access?  For a few nights, you could even go sleep in another room and he could do full night duty until she figured out there would be no milk? 

    Night parenting is so HARD.  SO HARD.

  2. By Joe @ IrrationalDad on November 04, 2009

    I’m not sure if Charlotte gets a pacifier at all, but that’s about the only way we could get Tyler to sleep through the night. He goes to bed with a pacifier. When he wakes up in the morning, we make him take it out before we lift him out of his crib.

    It’s been good and bad. If he wakes up in the middle of the night and can’t find his paci, he yells. We go in and give it to him. BUT, it’s now at the point where he spits his paci out while sleeping and still makes it through the night.

    That being said, he’s 16 months old now… We had the every hour or two thing as well. We actually shut his door and our door and let him cry it out. It’s VERY DIFFICULT, but it worked after a couple nights.

  3. By Joelle on November 04, 2009

    First of all, I’m knocking on LOTS of wood.  My Kira is 4 months old and sleeping through the night AT THIS POINT.  :)

    My biggest comment for night weaning is this:

    Mommy smells like milk.

    Daddy does not.

    Donald seems so sweet and supportive, you may be able to sell him on it being HIS job to put her back to sleep at night.  My sweet husband did it for us.  There was LOTS of crying the first night.  Less the second, etc, etc,...

  4. By kbreints on November 04, 2009

    I am not the best person to ask sleep advice from, however my child did not sleep because of ear infections, not because he was eating…

    I would say though that it has to do with the easy access she has to you and that she has not learned to self sooth. (Fall back asleep on her own) If you are not ready to put her in her crib in her own room, instead of having her right next to your in bed… put her in a cradle next to your bed… and that way you can still monitor her, but let her try to go back to sleep on her own before offering her the boob.

    Oh man I remember the sleepless nights.. it is not a fun time…. You will get through it though! I promise!

  5. By WaltzInExile on November 04, 2009

    I hesitate to give even solicited advice, especially as my firstborn didn’t sleep through the night until he was almost 16 months old.  I just want to note (and I’m sure it’s something you have come across in your reading and/or experience, so forgive me if I sound like an asshat saying this) that: a) sleep regressions are pretty common at Charlotte’s age, and 2) just because she could sleep through the night early on doesn’t mean she doesn’t need food/nutrition through the night now.  She might be having a growth spurt (y’all are some tall people, she’s got some growing to do!) or other developmental stage that requires a lot of energy (read: boobeez).  It won’t last forever, though.  That I can say with confidence.  Firstborn is now almost 8, so not only has it ended, we all lived through it.
    That didn’t sound nearly as encouraging as I intended it to.  Go ahead and look daggers at me.

  6. By Celina on November 04, 2009

    Sigh. I hate the hourly wakeup phase.  Sorry you’re going through it!  If it’s any consolation, it is just a phase, and she’ll eventually move through it.

    I’m on baby number three now, and the ONLY thing I’ve found that really, truly nips the hourly wakeups in the bud is tough love…letting them cry it out.  When my kids have have done the hourly wakeup thing, it’s not because they’re hungry but because they want snuggles and comfort.  There comes a point where their need for snuggles is totally trumped by my need for some real sleep.  I can’t be a good mom on no sleep.  Like Joe said, it is really, really difficult, but they get the hint pretty quick.  It sure beats the heck out of trying to wait out the phase!

    Good luck!

  7. By Sarah A. Schlothan Christensen on November 04, 2009

    Waltz - We’ve thought about the sleep regression thing, and it is a very real possibility that she simply needs more nutrition.  I guess my question is two-fold.  I want to know how to wean her for at least a four-hour slot at night, because I need at least four straight hours every few days lest I explode.  And I want to know how to convince her to eat more during the day than at night, because now that she’s discovered the boobs at night, she’s much less invested in them during the day.

    Unless it’s naptime, anyway.  Obviously she’s a big believer in my boobs being her soothie for sleeping lol.

  8. By Megan R. on November 04, 2009

    Wish I could help, but my little Peanut still really doesn’t sleep through the night…nor has she ever…and she is three months old.  She can go about 6 to 7.5 hour stretches…but that isn’t every night.  Last night she had me up again at 3am.  All completely inconsistent.  I dream of a day when I can sleep.  Actually…to dream would require sleep…so I don’t even do that!  I wish.  That is better.  I wish for the day that I can sleep!!!!

    Good luck to you!

  9. By Michelle on November 04, 2009

    We had a relatively simple time with Finnegan by offering him a bottle of water in the middle of the night instead of me.  Turns out he wasn’t hungry or thirsty at all… he just wanted to comfort nurse and once he realized that he wouldn’t get it, it was amazing how quickly he started sleeping again!

  10. By Trish on November 04, 2009

    I was hoping at the bottom of your post you were going to have a miracle cure for me.  I am going through the same thing.  If you solve the mystery, please let us know and share your wisdom.  I am in desperate need of sleep!!  If my son wasn’t so darn cute…......

  11. By stephanie on November 04, 2009

    PLEASE email me your plan. I am dying, night weaning keeps failing over here.

  12. By stephanie on November 04, 2009

    also, letting Jazz sleep by Sean keeps failing for us because Jasper starts crying wen he wants to eat, and so far nothing can stop it except nursing. Part of this is it’s so hard for me to sit there and listen to him cry, especially if I’m just going to have to nurse him anyway—I end up staying up twice as long.

    Does Charlotte nurse while you’re both on your sides? This works for us to a degree, but lately he’s been extra fussy and waking up frequently.

    I’m thinking of trying the bottle of water, except the last time we tried to give J a bottle he went nuts.

  13. By C @ Kid Things on November 04, 2009

    Try dealing with it for 15 months now. I wouldn’t even know what to do with myself with a full night of sleep.

  14. By Alias Mother on November 04, 2009

    Your need for more than an hour’s sleep at a time is not too much to ask, I don’t think.  Even if she’s in a growth spurt, this seems like a habit at this point. 

    I agree with the folks who recommend turning responsibility over to Donald for about a week, perhaps with one middle of the night feeding permitted.  It worked for us.  In fact, the Alias Father still does a better job at getting her back down in the middle of the night.  I will warn you that in our case, it took one night of him holding her as she screamed, which was horrible and painful and made me cry.  But it only lasted about an hour, then she slept all night.

    To this day she shows no signs of emotional scarring, so I think we’re in the clear.

  15. By Carlyn on November 04, 2009

    My sister did the Paci at night, and it seems to be helping. My nephew has for the most part always slept through the night except for waking up around 4am to eat, and would fall back asleep. for a bit he would get up, way to often, so we tried the paci… it soothed him enough to sleep. Only problem now is, he wants it everytime he sleeps, which isnt horrible, if it helps him sleep, and US sleep then im all for it lol. (i watch him often sister we believe is a little post partum)... can hurt to try it. he’s starting to find his fingers more so when the paci flies out, he can usually self soothe. paci’s arent expensive, cant hurt to try.

  16. By on November 04, 2009

    Yeah, my husband is starting to hate me for this, I’m afraid.

    First my Charlotte slept all night. Then she started needing a passy and we had to keep running in to help her find it in the middle of the night. Then that stopped working all the time, so I would feed her in bed if it was after 4 a.m. (I get up at 6 for work). Then she started coming to our bed earlier and earlier.

    Now she won’t sleep in her bed at all. She will only sleep in a crib at daycare. At home she will only sleep A) in her car seat or B) in someone’s arms or C) lying next to me in bed.

    I don’t mind the night feeding because I work all week and I like the extra baby snuggles. She only wakes up 2-3 times/night to eat. Plus now I only have to pump at work once a day and I’m still making extra milk because she isn’t eating much milk at daycare (she’s on solids).

    But she’s almost 8 months old, and it would be nice if she would sleep in her own bed for a hour or so once in a while so I could have some adult time with my husband.

    But I’m too much of a weenie to do cry it out. Last time we tried it I only lasted 3 minutes.

  17. By Moms sanity is making a comeback on November 04, 2009

    Honestly, every kiddo is unique. My Youngest didnt sleep thru the night until she was around 2yrs of age.

    I would recommend a paccy though. Our pediatrician recommended it, and after about a week she found her thumb instead and to this day it still keeps her content ;)

    Good luck! The first year is a rough one no matter how you look at it.

  18. By Sarah A. Schlothan Christensen on November 04, 2009

    Jessica - I’m kind of with you.  We lasted until she went frantic, where her lip quivered and she took a breath so long I thought she’d stopped breathing, which was, I don’t know, a minute.  I know it’s tough, but I keep going back to, BUT SHE’S JUST A BABY lol.

  19. By on November 04, 2009

    I giggled a bit when you said you just need four straight hours. I said the same thing to my husband with our first. She slept in bed with us, and had full access. She was a big baby at birth, and slept through the night for the first few weeks. Then she realized I was right next to her at night, and started waking to nurse - but just a little every hour or two. I let this go on for about a week, and then I lost it. My husband and I decided to set up her crib in our room. We took off one side, and dropped the mattress to where it was even with our bed, and then secured the crib, so it couldn’t scoot away from our bed. I had her take her nap in it the first day, so as not to freak her out when I put her in it later that night. The first night I had my husband sleep on the crib side, and he would comfort her if she woke and only wake me if it was after 4 am.  It worked, she woke, he rubbed her back and made the shhh noise, and she went back to sleep. I think the crib helped because she didn’t wake up from our movements, and she wasn’t close enough to smell the magic juice. The next night I slept next to the crib, and she slept for 6 hours.
    It is a rough transition. Good luck with it. If Charlotte decides to cry to get through it, remember as heart wrenching as the crying can be for you, it’s not harming her.

  20. By on November 04, 2009

    I was reading some message boards about getting the kids to sleep in their own beds and it seemed like a lot of people were doing it when the kids were old enough to sleep in a toddler bed. So they made a big deal out of moving to the BIG GIRL BED!!!! WHoooo!

    This makes sense to me because then she’ll be old enough to understand what’s going on. It just breaks my heart to think of her laying in her room all alone and wondering why Mommy doesn’t come get her.

    But in the meantime, I don’t know what to do. And I don’t know why it doesn’t bug me when she cries herself to sleep in the car. Maybe because I know I can’t stop the car in the middle of the highway to help her and I know that in 10 minutes we’ll be home? I don’t know why I can’t let her cry for 10 minutes at home like I do in the car.

  21. By on November 04, 2009

    Also, to be honest, night nursing is less tiring for me than running into her room to replace a passy several times a night. I can ALMOST sleep while nursing.

  22. By Laura on November 04, 2009

    Ummm yeah, I have no wisdom. It’s just a phase and you have to just suck it up and deal with it. I know I sound like a total beyotch saying that, but it’s true. There’s nothing you can do to make her sleep.

  23. By Laura on November 04, 2009

    Oh, and if no one has suggested it, you might try swaddling her. Maybe she’s waking herself up. Cam did that for a while. He would almost doze off then startle himself. So I swaddled him and he was all good after that.

  24. By Stephanie on November 04, 2009

    I have a HUGE feeling that I’m right behind ya. I’m 38 weeks today and I have a nice little intuition that my soon to be future is following very closely behind yours, he he.

    Lets hope we make it out alive.

  25. By on November 04, 2009

    Yeah, swaddling worked great until she was old enough to roll over.

    You can’t swaddle after that, right?

  26. By caramama on November 04, 2009

    Oh, honey. It’s the four month sleep regression (http://www.askmoxie.org/2006/02/qa_what_are_sle.html). It can be a killer with some babies—like my first.

    What makes it worse is that it’s a terrible time to make any major changes to sleep (http://bedtiming.typepad.com/bed-timing/2009/10/readers-question-losing-sleep-over-the-4month-transition.html).

    We only got through it by my going to sleep as soon as I put the baby to bed, taking turns with our daughter—that is when my girl would let her daddy soothe her at all—and by my sleeping basically with a boob in her mouth, either in bed with her or in the glider/recliner. I am now cosleeping with my baby boy (who is almost 5 months) and just trying to get through this phase.

    I wish you the best of luck night-weaning. I will say that it is just a phase and it gets easier. In fact, it gets a lot easier to night wean a little later. But some babies go through it easier and quicker than mine, so I hope you are successful!

  27. By Cambria Copeland on November 04, 2009

    It’s a tough topic because we went through the exact same thing.  It’s ever changing, so enjoy the successes while they happen, but expect something to change.

    When my little one was six months old, we resorted to the “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child” book method, which essentially is “cry it out.“  I was very anti this concept, but I was finally willing to try it because my kiddo would camp on my boob all night and I’d have to go to bed at 7 with her. After two nights of crying for 30 minutes or so, she finally went to sleep without much fuss, wake once, I’d nurse her and she’d go back to sleep.  It worked and I had some of my life back, and my boobs, kind of back.  We didn’t follow the doctors advice to a T - he advises to leave baby be no matter what.  But, we know our girls cries and would get her if it seemed like something other than a tired baby trying to work herself to sleep.

    Then we moved… and it all changed.  She is 15 months now and she ultimately sleeps in the bed with me after 4-5 hours in her own bed, though we stopped nursing a month a go.  BUT. she goes to sleep in her bed initially and joins us well into the night, giving me a break and some sleep.

    RE: Weaning…  I day weaned first at 12 months and then at 14 months I had a trip planned with out her and it was over.  It was hard.  I mourned.  She did too.  But we are doing good now.  She is a milk fiend now (especially since she knows the word and sign), but she isn’t sucking on me.  She squeezes my boobs and anyone elses who will let her any chance she gets, but we’ll work on that another time.  I am told this is normal.

    I am going to try transitioning my kiddo into a big girl bed on the floor next to our bed in hopes this will work…  Might be a disaster, who knows.

    It seems that you are not quite ready to wean, but maybe pump so Charlotte has mama’s milk to enjoy in the night.  She’ll get used to not having access, they are adaptable little people. 

    But my ultimate advice is to follow your gut.  You’ll get all kinds of advice that may or may not work for you, but it’s ultimately what you are ready and willing to do.  Good luck!

  28. By on November 04, 2009

    i have no hints for you. sorry :)
    my 3 month old son is still pretty inconsistent. he sleeps next to me in the bassinet (i am terrified of rolling on him) : goes down at 10:30ish with boob in mouth and i plop him in his pre-warmed bassinet (what a prince) where he will snooze until about 2 or 2:30.  from there on out, it is every two hours that he grunts and makes the slurpy sucky noise to signal that he is hungry. and he eats every two hours ALL DAY LONG.  And he is completely insulted by pacifiers and bottles. and i have tried EVERY KIND. i guess my nips are just That Good. :) 

    there has been a rare occasion that, out of absolute necessity, i have ignored the slurpy sucking sound for one more hour (* please god just one more hour *)  but that is the most he will go without eating.  i am told that he will slowly extend the time between feedings himself at night.

    sorry to not impart any wisdom - i just wanted you to know you are not alone.  every time you wake up every hour, know that there are bleary-eyed readers all over the country hunched over their bottomless pits praying to god - maybe for the first time in their lives - for just one more freaking hour.

  29. By Tabitha (From Single to Married) on November 04, 2009

    I have no advice of course, just wanted to say “poor thing.“!  (and I hope it doesn’t happen with our little guy when the time comes ) :)

  30. By on November 04, 2009

    I totally feel your pain. When my daughter went through the phase of waking up every hour, I ended up in a psychiatrist’s office because I couldn’t function as a human being with so little sleep! I turned into all sorts of crazy. My daughter was even sleeping in her crib and she did this nonsense! All I know is that they definitely do not need to eat THAT often. It’s sad, but the only way to get babies to self-soothe, and to eventually sleep through the night is to do some sort of “cry it out” method. Although Charlotte might be too young? We tried it at 4 months with my daughter, and I think she was too young. We then did it again at 6 months, and it worked, for the most part. RE night weaning, are you ready to give up co-sleeping? you must get your body away from hers so she can’t smell you! have your husband console her in the night if at all possible. the more she smells you, the more she wants to eat! please know you’re not alone on this one, we’ve all gone through it! My daughter is 2 and sleeps 12 hours a night now! It’s a dream come true, and a place I thought we’d never ever get to….

  31. By erin on November 04, 2009

    CaraMama is so right - the four-month sleep regression.  The book you need is called The Wonder Weeks (Borders says it is out of print, but you can get it on Amazon for $22) and discusses the cognitive growth spurts babies go through, which is when they stop sleeping and get clingy etc.  The 4-month one is a bad one, and then runs almost directly into the 6 month one, which is where we’re at right now.  At the moment Hannah will sleep 6 hours at a stretch, which is nice, but not fabulous when she goes down at 8p and 6 hours later is 2a.  Yay!  They don’t sleep well because they are learning so much - kind of like when YOU go through a stressful period in your life, you don’t always sleep well either.

    One thing I really like about the Wonder Weeks is that it does not say “DO THIS” to get your baby to do that - it just tells you what is going on with them.  Your baby is learning x right now, they are going through y, here are some things you can try to help them.  It is more helping YOU understand what your baby is going through, which (sort of) helps everything be a bit more bearable. 

    After reading the Wonder Weeks and also Dr Sears sleep book, we decided not to try night-weaning Hannah or sleep training.  We figure she needs what she needs and we are here to provide it for her, be that cuddling in the middle of the night, or nursing, or letting her play in her crib with her toys.  (Yes, she is up at 3a PLAYING.  KILL ME NOW.)  I can manage with strange sleep patterns right now since I am not working, and she is so little and doesn’t have the skills to cope with these changes she’s going through, and it won’t last forever.  She won’t go off to college still wanting to be nursed through the night.  Someone said once, maybe on here? that you only get them for 18 years, and this baby time is such a tiny part of that, that I’m trying to get as much of it as I can, good and bad, even if that means I lose a little sleep in the now.

  32. By Elizabeth on November 04, 2009

    I have no advice.  However, I have been through that.  Hang in there, and if you are sleep-training and night-weaning… just be consistent.

  33. By Elizabeth on November 04, 2009

    although… consistency at her age??  That’s why I never could do it.
    But, I do remember that it doesn’t last forever… this waking thing.

  34. By Elaine on November 04, 2009

    My son didn’t sleep longer than an hour for four years.

    Good luck.


    PS. He’s almost 21 now. And he still doesn’t sleep.
    (But he’s very,very happy.)

  35. By lceel on November 04, 2009

    Use a pump and put small bottles of breast milk in the fridge.  Use those at night - let Donald feed her.

    If she continues to wake at night - AS AN EXPERIMENT - try giving her a bottle of formula for the last feeding in the evening.  See if it changes her sleep pattern.  If she sleeps through when taking formula, and not when taking breast milk, then you may need to talk to your pediatrician about Charlotte’s diet.

  36. By MyHormonesMadeMeDoIt on November 04, 2009

    No wisdom, sorry, but can I just say I am tire for you:)

  37. By erin on November 04, 2009

    I just realized, my comment?  I didn’t mean to sound all judgy, like Oooh I want to be there for my baby and whatever she needs and obviously you don’t.  I didn’t mean that at all.  Trust me, I would LOVE to have night-weaned Hannah, it just isn’t happening right now so I’m trying to embrace it and see the positive, is all.  It is hard to be positive when she is wiggly and playful at 3a, or hungry because she hasn’t been fed in 9 years.  That’s all I was trying to say.

  38. By Robin on November 04, 2009

    I have 3 kiddos under the age of 6…I have 2 thoughts, either it is a growth spurt and will be temporary, or let her cry it out.  It is hard, but it will take less than 1 week to work.

  39. By tracey on November 04, 2009

    Yeaaahhhh…

    Heh.

    A lot of great advice. Might I second:

    Swaddling. Tightly. REALLY tightly.

    Pacifier. I would even go so far as to say wrap the blanket so it holds it in place, but don’t quote me on that if she wakes up with the blanket over her face.. Not that I’d ever do that to get a bit of sleep…ahem.

    Cry it out a bit. Eh. Doesn’t hurt them as much as it hurts you.

    Give her to Daddy at night. No if’s and’s or but’s. Or boobs.

    Wine. Lots and lots of wine, so you aren’t tempted to give her the contaminated milk at 2 am. Again, not that I’D ever do that… ahem..

  40. By jaimey on November 04, 2009

    Grayson did this and finally ended up at the 12 times a night mark before I said enough was enough. He was 9 months old (a bit older than C but maybe some stuff could apply) so I got the HEALTHY SLEEP HABITS HAPPY CHILD book (some crap- mostly good advice) and while it does talk about some crying it wasn’t ongoing and without warmth. G cried a bit the first night (5 min) then 3 the second and has mostly slept great since! He is also a very warm, cuddly, well adjusted preschooler who doesn’t seem to mind or feel horribly tortured by the whole event at this point. And best of all, I got some sleep.

    No matter what tactic you use, remember that a tired angry frustrated mommy is doing noone any good. Least of all Charlotte. :) Hugs and good luck!

  41. By Adventures In Babywearing on November 04, 2009

    PS I meant to say I love that photo!

    Steph

  42. By on November 05, 2009

    You asked!  Buy a crib. Use it. Utilize Donald at night. Sleep in the guest room alone or the livingroom.

  43. By on November 05, 2009

    Whoever took that picture is awesome.  ;)

  44. By Allison on November 05, 2009

    Well, I have no place giving advice. First: my son STILL doesn’t sleep through the night. Most nights he does, but he still wakes up sometime. When he was nursing? He was up CONSTANTLY throughout the night. He slept in a co-sleeper attached to our bed until he was four months, and then moved into a crib in the room next to us. His moving away from the “mommy smell” did not help. But maybe it will for you!

    The only thing I can offer you is this: remember, it’s normal that kids are NOT normal. Just because “most kids sleep through the night by ___ months” doesn’t mean that YOURS (or mine, or whoever’s) will. EVERY kid is different. EVERY kid requires different things: some will sleep through the night from one week old, some will take the breast and won’t TOUCH a bottle, some will switch between breast and bottle without a care in the world (mine did!), some will never touch a breast, some will not take to solid foods until they are 9 months old, some will walk at 7 months, others not until they are 18.

    Anyway. Now that I’ve probably made no sense and did not help you at all…I hope other people have been more helpful.

    (FWIW, I’m not a fan of crying it out. At all. But, again, every kid is different…and every relationship is different. I never let my kid cry it out, and was told over and over and over again that if I would just let him cry it out he would sleep better. But, for me, it just meant that he would learn that when he cried I wouldn’t come, so why bother crying? I know many parents who say it changed their lives.)

    (Okay, I apologize for taking over this comment. BAH!)

  45. By AllisonO on November 06, 2009

    Ok, so as the mom of a 3.5 month old, I do not have time to read the preceding 40+ comments so I might be about to sound like a broken record.

    But, being the mom of a 3.5 month old, I JUST WENT THROUGH THE EXACT SAME THING. No joke, beautiful 9 hour sleeper cum 2.5 MAX hour sleeper out of nowhere. I honestly thought it was the devil doing this to us (hey, he’s done lesser things) but then we UNSWADDLED OUR BABY.

    It was my husband’s idea and I was skeptical, but our son slept 10 hours before waking to feed, on the first try! I think he was waking to fight his swaddle and I was feeding him under the assumption that he was waking to feed. As he was getting more mobile he was able to comfort himself more, but the swaddle was hindering that.

    I don’t know if you swaddle Charlie, but give it a try. It could save you life. Best of luck!

  46. By on November 06, 2009

    I recommend co sleeping and just sleep while you nurse. Lay on your side and feed both breasts. If you are running around too much during the day you may need to stay home and nurse more so your supply can be increased. At that age I would feel her needs to eat and be comforted are valid. You can do it. Try to have her nurse more during the day. Just my 2 cents.
    Momma to 2 babies still nursing 5 years straight!

  47. By Andrea on November 10, 2009

    She in her 4 month regression/spurt.

    Run, don’t walk, to a books store.  Buy Pantley’s No-Cry Sleep Solution.  It will make you happy.

    Love,
    A mama of a now two-year old boy, co-sleeper, breastfeeder, non-sleeper.

    xoxo

  48. By Logan Parson on November 10, 2009

    Hi,  I’ve, just had a few minutes to read some of your posts and I, myself, am also so sleep derpived, I nearly hit my head on the keyboard several times just to keep myself away.  I have a 6 month old and a 3 1/2 year old.  My 6 month old has now also taken to getting up every hour…I’m about ready die.  I’ve been wondering lately, why anyone has children.  Then, I look at their sweet faces and kind of remember why. 
    I have no advice, other than I empathize with you.
    Thanks for your stories.  Logan

  49. By on November 10, 2009

    love your blog.  Sometimes babies just need to do what they want to do.  That said, with one child I was successful with block feeding. I nursed at 5 pm, gave a bath, and then nursed again at 6 pm for a long time. That should get you a full baby and some more sleep (I hope).  Four months is hard because the baby is just realizing that there’s a whole world out there beyond her little knees and she doesn’t want to miss any of it! good luck.

  50. By on November 12, 2009

    Sarah, I’ve been having the same problem. My 3.5 month old was never sleeping through the night, but she would go for at least 3-5 hrs at a time. More recently, she has been waking up every hour or two. I feel your pain. I feel like a zombie on those days. I attempted to read everything about sleeping, but nothing helped. I ended up taking her to the dr to have her weighed to see if she was getting enough to eat. turns out she hasn’t been gaining as much weight as she should. More than likely she’s been hungry at night. I’ve noticed that she’s been falling asleep at night when eating after about 2 minutes . I’ve been trying hard to try to get her out of this pattern. Yesterday and today have been better. I don’t know if this is your problem, but at least i wanted you to know that you’re not alone! good luck!


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