On the state of the blog.  And me.
June 14, 2011

After reading through the comments and e-mails (and a couple pissed off text messages from buddies), MAYBE I SHOULD CLARIFY…I am not going anywhere.  I am not discontinuing my website; it is here to stay, I think.

The truth is that the post I wrote yesterday really wasn’t related to writing on my blog so much as it was related to not living around my blog.  I have yet to find any other medium that allows me to connect with so many different people so easily – and I really do love that.  BecomingSarah.com has been around for over two years now and this website has, in many ways, changed my life.  I value that too much to do away with it.

At the same time, I am coming to a point in my parenthood where the dynamic is drastically changing.  As Charlotte grows, she sleeps less and a natural byproduct is that we do more.  We’re busier.  More significantly, as she grows she becomes more independent.  Little by little, my daughter is becoming her own person and as she does I find that I am reclaiming old bits of me that were shelved when her needs were more all-encompassing.

I know that some women feel very passionately about not letting motherhood swallow them whole, but I am not one of them.  When I became a mother, I made a conscious decision to throw myself heart, body, mind, and soul into parenthood and to let it be the definition of who I was.  It was an almost animalistic desire, honestly.  And now that I am a more confident and knowledgeable parent, now that my child is more capable and motherhood is less physically demanding, that is changing.

As my life changes, this blog is sure to change too.  Maybe that means I’ll post less frequently.  Or that I’ll post more about daily life and less about toilet-training.  Maybe it means that I’ll share more recipes or find new ways of discussing children’s books and music (I’ve been thinking that selecting a few to talk about once a month might be more manageable, for example).  Maybe it means that I’ll post more serious stuff or maybe it means that I’ll post more humorous stuff.  Who knows?!

All that is certain is that my website is here to stay.

(Oh, my poor, poor husband.)

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  1. By on June 14, 2011

    Glad to hear that, Sarah, I have read you all along and find you interesting and funny. I take care of toddlers and your ways with Charlotte have given me good ideas to incorporate into my own doings.

  2. By Christy on June 14, 2011

    I totally understand.  When my daughter was very small I blogged pretty regularly, but now that she’s two I just don’t really have much time.  I miss blogging, but being with my girl is much more important.

    I am also a Mom that gave myself whole to being a Mom and I love it.  I know it’s probably not PC and many other people don’t agree, but it is so ME that I don’t care.

  3. By on June 14, 2011

    It is so funny how different people interpret things differently! I read your post yesterday and did not, for a minute, even think it meant you were going to stop your website. I just thought you were soaking up the everyday and that sometimes things like blogs and emails just don’t happen and that realizing that is okay is great! Anywho, happy to hear you are staying around! I love your blog.

  4. By on June 14, 2011

    LOL - I always feel so bad when I read your “just to clarify” type of posts… like “geeze… give the gal a break people!“

    I agree with allie - I totally got the impression you were just putting blogging on the back burner to enjoy life.

  5. By The Mommy Therapy on June 15, 2011

    Glad to hear you are sticking around.  It’s funny how the blog can evolve, it’s the best part about it being soley yours to make into whatever makes you fill happy about it.

    Good luck finding what you need.

    Motherhood definitely changes when they start doing more…I’ve enjoyed it more and more as they get older. :)

  6. By Kara @ Just 1 Step on June 21, 2011

    Well, I haven’t been a long-term reader or anything, so I don’t have a TON of input on how your blog should change (or any input for that matter, haha), but I just wanted to share that I LOVED when you said this:

    “Little by little, my daughter is becoming her own person and as she does I find that I am reclaiming old bits of me that were shelved when her needs were more all-encompassing.“

    You put into words what I have been totally feeling lately yet unable to say.  Now that my son is over 15 months old, suddenly I find myself paying more attention to my dogs and giving them cuddles, I actually want to water and prune my plants…my past interests and loves that seemed to die away are coming back.  And it’s honestly so relieving to know that I am still myself, that I still have love and concern for these other things in my life…I was just completely drained from giving everything to my child.

    So basically what I’m saying is, I get ya. :)





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