I think this is soon to come in our home… Can not wait…!
bwahahahaha! YES! We are so there with our 21 month old and it’s downright exhausting. For both of us. I have consumed more wine than I thought possible since this stage started. :)
Yup, my 22 month old is there too. “Naniel do it! Naniel do it!“ (Daniel). Or, of course, when he just doesn’t feel like doing things his is completely capable of, “Mommy do it!“ Whomever he decrees MUST be the person who “do it.“
After Matthew started to actually master most things he tried, the novelty wore off pretty quickly, and he didn’t care whether we did it for him or we told him he needed to do it himself.
So breathe easy—yet another phase that will go just as quickly as it came :-)
Yep this is a fun stage. My daughter has been in it for awhile now. It has recently extended to going to the bathroom on the toilet. She wants to climb up and do everything herself with the door closed and Mommy outside. *sniff* I find myself saying outloud “but she’s only two and a half!“ lol
Good Lord. It never ends. Trust me. Also? Shoes are overrated. Bare footed in the car is the way to go.
Death star tantrum, great description.
We learned that the correct answer, when we’re in a hurry, is “I know you can do it yourself, but Mommy will help you right now.“ She usually abides because we let her do it herself any other time.
Sounds like you are doing an awesome job! She sounds like she is completely okay with autonomy- which, my God, is a great thing!
These toddler years are so fun, but certainly have the frustrating moments. But the independence shows you are raising a strong little person - good job, mama!
I love the phrase” toddler death star tantrum” As I am beginning this phase with my 4th little, this description fits it perfectly
That Post from Michael regarding Wizpert is spam.
Mitzie - I deleted it. Amazing how sometimes my spam folder catches perfectly reasonable comments by accident and then lets those ones slide by!
I too love the phrase “toddler death star tantrum”. My son has a talking darth vader mask and one of the things it says is “Don’t make me destroy you”.
I can picture my 19 month old daughter thinking this when I won’t let her wash her hands for the 100th time in a day and she has one of those “toddler death star tantrums”

By Elin on May 10, 2011
Lots of milking it at our house lately, too. Emmeline’s new favorite phrase is “I do it! I do it!“ We’ve learned that the incorrect reply to that is “No, mamma will do it!“
It takes less time for her to do it than to calm her down from the ensuing meltdown from “Mamma will do it” or “Daddy will do it.“
Ah, the toddler mind. Isn’t it great!