The motto of our hopes.
June 19, 2009

My name will be…the motto of their hopes. – Napoleon Bonaparte

Hands down, the most difficult aspect of this pregnancy came in the form of choosing a name for the baby.  Donald and I shook hands on a dog’s name in about ten seconds flat, but picking a name for OUR BABY, OUR PRECIOUS CHILD, THE LIGHT OF OUR WORLD was rather akin to waging a world war.

Only with more bloodshed.

Apparently, one of us has awful taste in names.  And by “one of us,” I mean “whichever of us suggests a name.”  No matter the name, the person who did not suggest it would gag and call it horrid and say YOU WANT TO NAME OUR CHILD WHAT?!  Honestly, stabbing our eyes out with salad forks would probably have caused less long-term trauma.

After that, we decided that instead of suggesting names, we would each go through the baby name book and pick a list of twenty or thirty names we liked.  Then we’d compare lists and see where that got us.

Yeah, about that.  We could have stabbed our eyes out with salad forks, then been quartered and drawn, and it STILL would have been less painful.  Do you want to know how many names on our lists matched?

Zero.

So we went back to the ritual of suggesting names and having the other person shoot them down.  And that’s exactly what happened, OF COURSE.  The names were too common or too unique.  Too foreign or too familiar.  Too NO WAY IN HELL or too THAT’S REALLY UGLY.

We have finally decided upon two names, but I think I can safely say that both of us lost about half of our brain cells along the way.  Now that I’ve been through this, though, can I just say that all of you parent people who did not kill your partner during the naming process?

YOU ARE MY HEROES.

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  1. By Elizabeth on June 19, 2009

    My last kid wasn’t named until his second day. My husband picked our first born name, and for the second I got to pick out the name. Incidently, I chose a variation of the first born’s name. “Ain’t” I origan?! :)

  2. By Spruce Hill on June 19, 2009

    I did the list thing too. I had it on my bedside table and would add names to it and take them off. My hubby was pretty easy with it though, but it worked for us :)

  3. By Katelyn on June 19, 2009

    Lol, I had Brooklyn named, and hubby agreed, like the moment I conceived. It’s a good thing she was a girl afterall because everyone called her baby Brooklyn the ENTIRE pregnancy!  Glad you came toa meeting of the minds, eventually, hehe.

  4. By Buckeroomama on June 19, 2009

    I presented hubby with a list of the names that I like and he picked from MY list.  :)

  5. By Heather on June 19, 2009

    We had a heck of a time with our oldest, finding a name we both liked. When he asks us.. “how did you pick my name” we have to honestly tell him.. it’s the only name both of us didn’t hate.

    Son two was named during labor. I figured I would have 10+ hours with nothing to do, so I brought a baby name book.

    Son three was the easiest. We knew he was the last one, and we named him after both sides of the family.

  6. By Heidi on June 19, 2009

    Buzz Bardi caused quite a stir.

    I said, “I think our future son should be named Buzz.“

    He said, “No fucking way.“

    I said, “Like Aldrin. The astronaut.“

    And he said, “You mean like the fat older brother in Home Alone?“

  7. By Julie Momster on June 19, 2009

    We were able to avoid all issues involving naming our daughter for one reason: I have already named her. When I was like, 14. As in “My first daughter will be named Avienda Christine.“

    And since he was arguing with a hugely pregnant woman and didn’t want to die, I got me way. I told him that the next baby is all his. Saved us from bloodshed - or at least the name related bloodshed. We won’t go into the co-sleeping debates *shudder*

  8. By repliderium.com on June 19, 2009

    My friend and her husband changed their son’s name after 2 weeks- Which I thought that was really bizarre

  9. By Jinxy @ Jinxyisms on June 19, 2009

    We had a super easy time with Lily’s first name, we were back and forth a bit on her middle name.  In fact I have a post in drafts about how we named her, I should finish that.

    Now if somehow she would have been a boy, he probably still wouldn’t have a name (almost 6 months later).

    I can’t wait ti find out what you picked.  I am fascinated by baby names.

  10. By MamaDrama30 on June 19, 2009

    Our firstborn was a girl, and when we were picking out names, he hated every single name I suggested. Names I was fond of such as Serena, Skye and Jordanna sounded like “stage” names in his opinion. He preferred names like Susan, Ashley, Michelle - which are pretty names, but I wanted something more original. It got the point where I finally said - look - I AM THE ONE DELIVERING THIS BABY- WORK WITH ME HERE! Luckily I got my way at the end. We ended up naming my daughter Bianca. I’m sure you’ll come up with a great name, Sarah! However, I understand your frustration.

    On a slightly separate note - I just came across a very funny video on You Tube as I was writing this post…has to do with breaking the news that you’re pregnant to your firstborn. I’m obsessed - SO FUNNY!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iURGJpoEcn0

  11. By Katelyn on June 19, 2009

    I forgot that while we were picking a “boy” name he bought me a book with 15,000 names or something and I had him totally convinced that I wanted to name this baby, if it was a boy, Jimbo, only with a French spin, Jimbeaux, LOL.  Wow, that was the mother of all run-on sentences right there.  Those books have some seriously ridiculou names ;)

  12. By Sarah A. Schlothan Christensen on June 19, 2009

    Katelyn - SO TRUE!  Oh my word, the best part of the naming process is looking at all of those names and thinking YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME.  Seriously, there were perfectly average names that we couldn’t find in our book, but those pages were filled to the brim with weird names we’d never seen or heard before IN OUR LIVES.

  13. By WaltzInExile on June 19, 2009

    No kudos for us, please; we didn’t fight over names at all.  Before we were ever pregnant (or even married, for that matter), we used to think we wanted five boys (not so much anymore LOL) and we had picked out names for all of them. So when Goat #1 came along, he got name #1.  Goat #2 threw a wrench into our plans by being a girl, but I had a girl name all tucked away just in case, and Goat Daddy didn’t get any say, really.

  14. By Stephanie on June 19, 2009

    I can’t wait to find out what you guys name your baby!!! We never had a boy name until Sean went through like 100, and we weren’t 100% about Jasper until we met him. I’m sure you guys came up with great names!

  15. By theArthurClan on June 19, 2009

    My husband and I did okay with the first names, it was the middle names that caused a lot of fightin’ between the two of us.  Our last two boys didn’t get their full names until the doctor told us “you need to choose their names right now so I can fill out this birth certificate!“  ;)

    Ugh - I did not like that part of child bearing at all either.

  16. By Rebecca on June 19, 2009

    My husband and I went through the exact same thing trying to name our baby.  As soon as we found out we were expecting, we started tossing names back and forth.  We actually chose a girl’s name really easily and quickly when I was 10 or 11 weeks along. 

    So of course we found out at 20 weeks that we were having a boy.  And spent the rest of the pregnancy trying to find something we could agree on.  My husband is very picky—doesn’t like any name that reminds him of anyone he knows or that sounds “snotty”.  Basically our son is Nicholas Andrew because (as a PP said) it’s the only name we both didn’t hate.

  17. By Sarah A. Schlothan Christensen on June 19, 2009

    The Arthur Clan - I thought this was going to happen to us for awhile there.  A woman I work with took her son home from the hospital and went ELEVEN DAYS without a name.

    I was pretty sure we might out-do her too lol.

  18. By Steph on June 19, 2009

    I’m so glad you guys have decided on a name. (I know you commented on my post about the Babies Who Name Themselves)... I’m glad my DH didn’t mind the name that came out in my dream… otherwise we’d still be trying to decide on a boy’s name. (NO GIRLS NAME IN SIGHT YET!)

    Anyway, I was going to suggest (if you still hadn’t decided on names) that you could throw all of your choices into a glass jar and “draw” a name for the baby. It’d make an interesting “This is how we chose your name story” when the baby got older :P hehe

  19. By gretchen from lifenut on June 19, 2009

    Hey, we’ve had to come up with 7 first and 7 middle names.

    We are still married, although some of our most pouty moments occurred because of baby names. Our tastes have changed over the years. It would have never occurred to me to name Aidan something like Beatrix or vice versa.

    Names that are on this baby’s list probably won’t be on your next baby’s list. You’ll have a whole new set of names to argue over! Yay!

  20. By Laura on June 19, 2009

    I had our son’s name picked out years before so I told my Hubby it was that or nothing. We ended up compromising and Hubby got to pick the middle name since I picked the first name. :)

  21. By erin on June 19, 2009

    Hah!  So glad you finally got settled on names.  We went through the same thing for her first name.  “You want to name her WHAT?“  “That’s a bimbo name.  My daughter will NOT have a bimbo name.“  “That’s a name for a stripper.  Do you want her to grow up to be a stripper?  Because that’s what she’ll be with a name like that.“  “That’s a horrible, ugly name, I can’t believe you like that.  You have terrible taste in names.“  “I am NOT calling my daughter THAT for the rest of her life.  No way.“  “That name means ‘evil woman,‘ you know.  You want to name our daughter Evil Woman?“

    Thankfully her middle name was easy - it’s for her grandmothers.  We actually had that first.  But that first name… .  Then someone just suggested Hannah and we both went, Huh.  Sounds GREAT.  I like it.

  22. By Country-Fried Mama on June 19, 2009

    I think my husband and I could name six more kids, but raising them would be another story.  In fact, part of my inability to say “we’re done” is that we have one more really great name and I hate to let it go.  Ridiculous, right?

    I can’t wait to hear what y’all pick!

  23. By Mommica on June 19, 2009

    Well, I happen to know you have GREAT taste in names (names like Lillia, for example), so I think you should be the name picker.

  24. By Katelyn on June 19, 2009

    I liked this post, I can’t help but keep commenting.  You know I’m a teacher, I see some interesting names….but by far the WEIRDEST name I’ve come across was OLSTEPHANIE.  I hope I haven’t offended any of your readers but seriously? Olstephanie?  Try teaching a barely five year old to write that name.  Not sure it’s much better but we called her Fani for short.  Oh, and I had a kiddo named Facundo once, his family was from Argentina.  They called him Facco for short, I had to have a talk with them….everytime I watch Meet the Fockers I think of him, lol.

    Last year I was on the playground giving the duty teacher my list of kiddos who owed me recess time and another assistant asked, “Oh, is that your list of baby names?“  Umm…no.  This is my list of names I am definitely NOT naming my child :)

  25. By Dutch Donut Girl on June 20, 2009

    God, I haven’t visited here in a while. I was even scared the baby was already born. Why scared?
    Because I wanted to suggest some names for the baby of course :0

    If it is a girl:

    Olivia
    Emma
    Nina
    Mila
    Isabella
    Zoe
    Sophie

    If it is a boy;
    Levi
    Jayden
    Liam
    Dylan
    Keano
    Sam
    Joshua

    My work is done.

  26. By tracy on June 20, 2009

    picking the perfect baby name was almost as stressful as the thought of parenting itself. who was I to give a name to this little girl that she was going to be (for all intents & purposes) stuck with for the rest of her life? 

    my husband and I, being blessed with a last name that gives pause to the checkers at Safeway who are required by law to say “thank you, mrs. so and so”, knew we wanted a simple first name for her. I also knew I wanted Olivia for her middle name (my great grandmother’s name), so that narrowed down the first name choices considerably. for example, though I loved the name Emma, names ending with an “uh” sound did not go with Olivia.

    every time I came across a name in the baby book that I half-way liked, I’d shout it out to my husband, and he promptly shot down EVERY SINGLE NAME. and he was no help coming up with any names on his own. the only name he offered up was Marielle (an old girlfriend), which I actually really liked, but it was too similar to his mother’s name, and I was not going to let her think I named my daughter after her. anyhoo….

    I heard Ellis one night on a tv show, probably Law & Order, and rather liked it.  it met all my criteria ~ short, original but not on the top-10 list, easily shortened to one-syllable, and it went perfect with Olivia.

    even so, we didn’t officially decide on Ellis until late in the day, the day she was born. I needed to see how it fit on her before deciding. and since after kicking the name around in my head for several months & still not hating it, and more importantly, not coming up with any other names I liked better, we went with Ellis.

    13 months later, I’m still quite happy with our choice, and I’m sure you will be, too :)

  27. By Sarah A. Schlothan Christensen on June 21, 2009

    Dutch Donut Girl - You have good taste in names! =)  Actually, most of those were either on my list or on our “yeah, we can’t go with this because one of our sibs just had a baby and named them this last year” list.  In fact, seriously, there are exactly four that were not lol.  Next time, I’m going to have you draw up a list and present it to my husband!

  28. By bouncy on June 21, 2009

    Our son didn’t have a name for about a week. We just knew what NOT to call him…my wonderful sis in law finally named him and we didn’t hate it!
    yay us.
    And my hormonal self so didn’t care that it was my hubby’s dead pet bird’s name.

    Ok, now my family sounds like a bunch of character from a wes anderson movie…

  29. By A Free Man on June 21, 2009

    My partner and I had the same experience. Came down to a name that neither of us had the energy to veto. For #2 we have a girls name, but are still ‘negotiating’ on a boy’s name.

  30. By Bec on June 21, 2009

    We didn’t get a chance :lol: Erin was lucky to be named at all!

  31. By on June 22, 2009

    I had the name River picked out for years, boy or girl. Luckily, the hubs agreed and River Kaye just turned 1 :)

  32. By Dutch Donut Girl on June 22, 2009

    Sarah A. Schlothan Christensen : Ha ha ha :) Yes, let’s do that! I’m all for it.

  33. By Jes on June 23, 2009

    I can’t wait to found out what the babies name is. I would like to throw in my suggestion to name the baby Ronald. Boy or girl, Ronald is a good name.

  34. By Tabitha (From Single to Married) on June 25, 2009

    Oh man, I remember how hard it was just picking out a name for our dog.  I can’t imagine what it will be like when we have kids someday!  Can’t wait to hear what you decided on!


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