(2) This post is intended to clarify how my family is preparing for the postpartum RECOVERY after the birth of our second child. It is probably overkill, but I’m okay with that. Better safe than sorry! (I plan to follow this up with our plans related to food, community reliance, and what we have lined up for Charlotte.)
Postpartum pads
After I delivered Charlotte I used disposable pads provided by the hospital. When I was six or seven weeks postpartum, I made a postpartum check-up appointment wherein I mentioned to my OB that I was still bleeding quite a bit and experiencing quite a bit of pain. Part of the problem was that I had accidentally ripped out six of my twelve stitches (ouch), but my OB theorized that the other part of the problem might have been the disposable pads and he recommended looking into cloth pads in the future.
I did. And I never looked back.
As a result of using cloth pads during my menstrual cycle and having used cloth pads (plus prefold diapers) in the aftermath of a complicated miscarriage, I had a pretty good idea of what I would need for postpartum coverage. I bought a pattern for postpartum cloth pads from BabyMoon and purchased the materials I would need (PUL, elastic, flannel, and organic French hemp terry) from Kids in the Garden.
Charlotte insisted on being in this photograph. I guess her head does give you a general idea how enormous the BabyMoon Pattern A pads are…
Then I recruited my neighbor to help me out. We made a few small adjustments to the BabyMoon patterns to customize the pads to my body and my needs, and then we spent an entire weekend stitching away. In total, we made three sizes of postpartum pads to accommodate different stages of postpartum recovery and we made enough of each size for me to only need to launder the pads every other day.
It sounds odd, but I am genuinely excited to see how the cloth pads hold up. I hope they are more comfortable than the disposables were and that they will be sufficient for the amount of blood flow involved in even the earliest postpartum hours.
Witch hazel pads
I set aside a dozen of my regular-use cloth pads (from Epicerma, which in my experience are comfortable, easy to launder, and consistently absorbent without leaking - but on the downside have a high rate of snap failure; I remedied this by sewing on buttons and elastic loops) and purchased a pack of six Willow Pads (much thinner and less absorbent than the Epicema pads, definitely not something I would use for regular flow days on my period, but should do just fine as frozen goods) on sale. I also tracked down alcohol-free witch hazel from The Homestead Company and I always keep aloe gel on hand. I picked one bottle of witch hazel with no fragrances or additions and another with lavender and chamomile.
My plan is to dampen the eighteen cloth pads with an aloe-witch hazel blend (1 tablespoon witch hazel and 1/2 teaspoon aloe per pad) and to freeze them on a baking tray for later use. My witch hazel came with a pack of one hundred small cotton pads (which I believe are probably typically used for make-up removal or face cleanses). We found a glass jar in our pantry that is short and stocky and we will be using that to store small quantities of the cotton pads soaked in witch hazel in the bathroom for general use over the first couple weeks.
Perineum spray
Earth Mama Angel Baby produces four-ounce bottles of something called “New Mama Bottom Spray.” Our local natural parenting shop carries it, so I picked some up when Charlotte and I were there last month. In addition to this, I have a peri-bottle that will be maintained with warm water. I have heard of adding lavender essential oil or aloe gel to the water as well but I think that I’ll probably just go with the Earth Mama Angel Baby spray and the water first and see how I feel.
Herbs
Earth Mama Angel Baby also produces postpartum bath herbs for use frozen to alleviate pain and swelling – and for use in warm sitz baths later. I’ve never tried this before and neither has anyone I’ve talked to about it, so I have no idea what to expect.
In addition, this post on Passionate Homemaking discusses taking saltwater baths with essential oils to help heal postpartum muscles and keep any wounds from labor infection-free, something that is also mentioned in a variety of postpartum resources I’ve come across over the years and recommended by my midwife.
That said, I am not a bath person and never have been, so I don’t really see myself jumping in the tub until the heaviest bleeding has subsided a couple weeks postpartum. We’ll see!
Postpartum mood
Although I did not have postpartum depression with Charlotte, I did experience mild depression after my miscarriage last summer which puts me at a higher risk of postpartum depression with this birth. Naturally, I have spent quite a bit of time looking into holistic means of addressing this possibility through diet, exercise, herbs, and the like. I talked to my obstetrician, a nutritionist friend, and my midwife about different ideas.
The dietary advice was unanimous: intake more of some things (folic acid, dark leafy greens, vitamin B, iron, vitamin D3) and less of others (processed foods, sugar, white flour).
My buddy also suggested: blessed thistle infusions, raspberry leaf tea, and eating licorice sporadically, all of which seem to be somehow correlated with positive moods.
My OB also suggested: lemon balm (which he had read about, but was unfamiliar with the use of), small quantities of bee pollen (to boost energy), focusing on connecting with and relying on my community (socialization generally being beneficial as well as helping take the load off new mothers while they are healing), aromatherapy, and spending as much time as possible outside and taking leisurely strolls. He also suggested massage with essential oils known to enhance moods; his explanation was that pleasurable physical contact not only helps relieve aches and pains, it also helps women release oxytocin and other happy hormones in addition to the effects of the oils.
Lavender oil on the right, from the local health food shop.
As well, because I will be breastfeeding (an activity associated with lower risk of depression and one which always gives me the warm fuzzies emotionally), I will also be continuing to take my prenatal vitamins, which may help. Since I will be expressing as much milk as possible in conjunction with several other women in my mother’s group, I will also probably be increasing my intake of foods and teas that can boost my supply.
The next few weeks are going to be devoted in large part to learning more about how to make these recommendations a reality.
Placental consumption
I still have not decided whether or not I want to eat the placenta. I have read everything I can get my hands on about the topic and from what I can determine, there is very little knowledge about the practice and very little evidence in support of either the pros or cons people have listed over the years.
If I decide to proceed with placental consumption, we have located the resources we need in our area to make it happen. Chances are that I will not make the final call on this for a few weeks yet. Because I cannot swallow pills, if I choose to consume the placenta we will be hiring a local postpartum doula to dehydrate and powder the organ. I can then add placenta to my green smoothies or mix it with homemade truffles (organic, fair-trade, dark chocolate using berries or fruits to sweeten instead of sugar).
Books
There are three books specific to the postpartum period that I have found particularly helpful. I wish I had known that these books existed when I was postpartum with Charlotte, but instead I found them at the library several months later. They are each excellent resources and far more informative than that tiny ten-page section on postpartum health included in most pregnancy books.
The Year After Childbirth: Enjoying Your Body, Your Relationships, and Yourself in Your Baby’s First Year written by Sheila Kitzinger can be found at Better World Books by clicking here and at Amazon by clicking here. In my opinion, this book provides a solid overview of postpartum life, but I think the real gem of the book is the perspective Kitzinger takes on mother guilt being a Western invention. This a fascinating concept to me. The rest of the book really just gives a rough overview of postpartum considerations and discusses the wide range of “normal” for postpartum women in emotional, physical, sexual, and other realms of life.
After The Baby’s Birth: A Complete Guide for Postpartum Women written by Robin Lim can be found at Better World Books by clicking here and at Amazon by clicking here. This is, hands-down, the best postpartum resource I’ve come across…but it’s also pricey. I recommend hunting an older edition down used. I have heard some valid complaints about certain aspects of the book, such as Lim’s opinion on how quickly a mother should or will lose the baby weight, but I think that as with all books it’s important to remember that you do not need to look favorably upon everything the author says in order to have a positive experience with it.
Natural Health After Birth: The Complete Guide to Postpartum Wellness written by Aviva Jill Romm can be found at Better World Books by clicking here and at Amazon by clicking here. As a disclaimer, I am a HUGE fan of Romm’s books, so I’m not the most objective reader. I love her focus on herbal and holistic information and in this book, I particularly enjoy the discussion about how mother-care exists in other cultures (which has given me a host of ideas when friends of mine have delivered babies). I also find her resource lists to be thorough and helpful.
(Alternatively, you can check WorldCat to see if a library near you stocks a particular book. Not all libraries are included, but it can be helpful nonetheless.)
I also found it useful to have entertaining and interesting reading on hand both when I was postpartum with Charlotte and when I was dealing with my miscarriage last summer. I will probably make a library trip when I am 38 or 39 weeks pregnant to pick out a few fun books, which I will be able to renew online twice before returning.
A couple weeks ago, I found this nifty idea on Pinterest (with which I am completely obsessed, OH MY GOODNESS) and I have been thinking about it ever since. Now that it is warmer in the evenings, I am gearing up to start teaching Charlotte more about the night sky again - mostly through folklore, but also through just standing outside and admiring the heavens.
As such, THIS Nature-Watch product really speaks to me. I’ve toyed with maybe making something similar for Charlotte - I think larger and thicker cards would be better for a child her age and that way we could include a larger variety of constellations - but we’ll see whether or not I actually do.
Right now, I’m mostly just struck that someone had the genius to think it up in the first place. LOVE.
